YIKES!!!!

And that doesn't count the ones as Qfwfq, either! (I'm tempted to just edit this post forever, so that I can stay at 4000! ...but maybe I should get 2 5000, or maybe even 10000, and do it then?)

Not much news 2 report, except that we're in recovery and it IS very HARD, just like everybody says. It pulls a good vacuum, in fact. Also 2 reiterate that I have agreed with cerri and decided not 2 post about my M or my W on the boards, except in general, helpful ways. I know my W appreciates this.

I just want 2 urge everyone going through the process 2 just hang in there. As cerri told me yes2rday, "Recovery lasts a lifetime". There is no viable option that says "you can live happily ever after if you just do X, or Y... ...but you'd better make sure you take that emotional baggage with you wherever you go!" And that's the point. Shedding the emotional baggage is what recovery is about. You do yours, your BS or WS is responsible for doing theirs. And maybe, just maybe, at the end of the process you'll have clean emotional underwear and be able truly 2 enjoy each other's company again. That's my hope, anyway.

-ol' 2long <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ November 21, 2003, 02:59 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>

Hi .... howz youz?

Thinking about you and the Mrs.... prayers to your home daily.

Love,

Pep

2long - i like you said this:

"Also 2 reiterate that I have agreed with cerri and decided not 2 post about my M or my W on the boards, except in general, helpful ways. I know my W appreciates this."

Hey 2long

4,000 posts!!!!

Shut your Pie Hole already would ya....

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ARK
who couldn't resist..but you knew that..

"clean emotional underwear"

~~~~~~~~~
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Pep:

I'm going to post as Q for a bit, so I can cherish that nice, round "4000" for the afternoon, at least! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

We're doing... ...pretty okay right now. We're communicating like never before. Not surprisingly, we've got some serious issues, but at least we're doing a much better job of identifying them, taking responsibility for the ones that are ours and not the others, and which are both of ours.

Don't really know which way this is all going to go, or how long it's going to take.

I'm delighted to hear from some of my ol' friends here and how they're doing, whether they've DVd or rebuilt. Because whatever they did, they did it right. I'm learning how they did it every day. 'spect I'll keep doing that for many lifetimes to come.

♥Qfwfq

Never Alone:

Yeah, I actually like it now, too. At first, well, for a long time, I rebelled against the idea of not talking about our M's on the boards. After all, many of us aren't in counseling, or even if we are, don't feel like an hour ever couple of weeks is enough "help."

But cerri (and others with similar views) have a point. It CAN be too easy to get into a "WS-bashing" mode, and we have no control over the responses posted to our threads. Cerri even suggested that I could ask the moderators to delete my old threads. I looked at many of them, going back all the way to the beginning, and decided that I didn't want to delete them - I can STILL learn much from reading and recalling how I was thinking back then. I don't "dwell" on the events of the time, I ponder my thought processes and stage of growth at the time. Last time I did that was a couple of weeks ago, and it helped me a lot, and in a different way than the previous time I did.

But not talking about my sitch was hard at first... ...then not so hard, because I focused my energies on trying to help others... ...then easy, because I was focusing my efforts to get help on helping ME, not trying to FIX my W. (and those of you who know me, know just how LONG I did THAT and insisted that I DIDN'T! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ). In the end, the change has helped me to better help myself - the only place I can effect change anyway.

All my love,
-Qfwfq/2long

Underwear?
boxers or whitey tighties?

Hiker:

Boxers. My "boys" need room to breathe! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

-Qfwfq/2long

double post for the twins!

<small>[ November 21, 2003, 06:35 PM: Message edited by: Qfwfq ]</small>

Double post for "the boys"? or just further obsession with 2s? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

4000 posts! All I can say is "WOW" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

sniff, I like 2Long better than Qfwfq!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Mel:

I'll let him come back! We're just real enamored with those '0s', isall.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Qfwfq/2long

Tell that rat he owes me $5!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

MB National Bank
2long
867-5309
Vun234, Nowhere in Particular
USA

Pay 2 the order of: MELODYLANE

In the amount of: Five Bucks (preferably male deer, we've got several of them out on the mall at work - you pay shipping)

Five, and zero/one hundredths BUCKS

Note: Ol' debt because WAT came back (the happy [censored]!) Signed: 2long.

Mel:

Are we square? ...yeah, I KNOW *I* am, but are we? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

-ol' 2long's 4002nd post (at least it's got 2 zeros in it, and a 2!)

<small>[ November 21, 2003, 07:46 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>

wow, I turned my first profit on the internet! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Mel<---------greedy capitalist pig!

duplicate post

<small>[ November 25, 2003, 01:20 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

2L,

4K + 2 = Hooooray! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Hiker:
[qb] Underwear?
boxers or whitey tighties? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hiker, I thought it was tighty whities?!??! Who am I to say, I only have 1 son who likes the box type. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

L.

Geez, 2L,
I go away for a bit, and look at you! 4000+ posts!
Blessings, my friend!