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Yes--the slow growth, keeping up a pace through the journey, is part of the beauty...and the ability to see beauty even in the presence of degredation. Once you learn you're in it for the long haul, you start to look at the scenery... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> P.S. I love how you celebrate everyone's growth here.
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Yes--the slow growth, keeping up a pace through the journey, is part of the beauty...and the ability to see beauty even in the presence of degredation. Once you learn you're in it for the long haul, you start to look at the scenery... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> P.S. I love how you celebrate everyone's growth here.
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CAH If your BH was back home your OM would think twice about contacting you and just may decide to end the affair. What's stoping you from telling your BH to come back home?
<small>[ November 26, 2003, 03:52 PM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>
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TMCM...I know that. I know if I ask my H to come home it would be over, however...once again, I am having a very hard time making myself do that, because I don't want it to be over. I know it NEEDS to be, I just can't take that extra step to make it happen.
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TMCM...I know that. I know if I ask my H to come home it would be over, however...once again, I am having a very hard time making myself do that, because I don't want it to be over. I know it NEEDS to be, I just can't take that extra step to make it happen.
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CAH I understand but keep in mind that your marriage cannot be saved unless you end your affair. Furthermore, the more time passes by and you continue to be separated from your H, the the chances increase that the choice to either save your marriage or not, may no longer be yours to make because your H may end up having an affair of his own and/or filing for divorce.
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Thanks TMCM!! I do realize what you are saying, and you are exactly right. I must say...I am very proud of myself tonight. My H and a friend are going out tonight, and they asked me to go. I agreed. The neighbor was supposed to go out of town tonight for T'giving, and he called a bit ago and is not leaving tonight, BUT now he is not leaving until tomorrow, and he wanted to do something tonight, but I am still going with my H out!!! That's a start, isn't it???
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Yes it is although it would have been far better if only you and your H were going out because it would have given you two a chance to spend some quality time together to talk about the marriage. Oh well, maybe another time.
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