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Is this a reasonable request:
Dear Ex-
Glad to hear about your new freind, do you think it may be an act of courtesy that I would know this gentleman's name and a little about him since he is around my kids unbeknownst to me?
I am sure he is a great guy, and I am not trying to interfere in you & his business, but who is around my children is my business.
When I am as lucky as you, I planned on being courteous enough to tell you a little about the person who is spending time with your children
Thank You
Rly
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I think it's very reasonable.
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I agree you have a right to know, however unless the girls have given you some indication they are uncomfortable being around her new friend, I think this type of probing of your ex is going to be perceived as nosy and potentially controlling.
If not, then I think you need to respect your wife's choice of friends and keep your eyes and ears open.
Peace.
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I don't think the idea is unreasonable, but I think the tone is disrespectful. Are you usually this formal in your communications?
I would change it to something like this:
Glad to hear about your new friend.
I am sure he is a great guy, and I am not trying to interfere in your business, but I' sure you would agree that anyone who spends time with our children is our business. Would you mind telling me a little about him if you are planning to introduce him to our children or have our children spend time with you and he together?
When I am as lucky as you, I will return the courtesy.
Thank You
Rly
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