Hi everyone.
I use the ID Blessed TIME because TIME is such a GREAT HEALER OF OUR BROKEN HEARTS; and truly is a blessing we are thankful for!

I am sure others have some tips to add here but here are a few of mine.

I read that the way Prince Charles found out Diana was having an affair is he clicked re-dial on the telephone and found out who answered!
(This was before caller ID and some of us may not have it; we don't.)

Another tip is on the computer, click on "History" or the key 'CTRL' (control) and the key 'H' at the same time...
It will show all the sites visited that day and if you click on view or site most visited, you will get a list of all the sites...If there are some different e-mail addresses, you will know they have a secret account and secret password.
Of course if she or he is wise they will delete these but they may forget!

Another tip is go to your e-mail compose page and go to the top and click on 'Edit' and then 'paste', as lots of times the previous user will forget they had copied and pasted a part of an e-mail message!

Sometimes though, the information we find, can be heart-breaking, especially if our mate has told us they are in NO CONTACT.

I almost think it would be better to let the WS have 'a little' phone contact but in our presence only; or e-mail contact that we are alllowed to read!...Otherwise, they just seem to crave that person that much more; when they think of never seeing or hearing from them again!(Anyway that is what I allowed my WH to do for the first year, and then the calls and e-mails kinda just dwindled away, especially when she found another 'sweetheart'.)
Sincerely, Julie Jo (JJ)

I thought of another tip!

Check the mileage on the car; and if lots of miles were added one day that were unaccounted for, that is a good reason for suspicion!
JJ

Another method is

www.spyarsanel.com - Family Key Logger is $29.00 and will record all key strokes from the computer you load it on. When you register and pay, you receive a "registration number". When you enter this number - you can then select Stealth Start up in the options menu. The only way you can view the log is by pressing what are known as "HOT BUTTON KEYS"

I am happy to give more instructions on this. It was invaluable to me as I was able to read e-mail messages and know exactly what web sites were requested in the search menu.

BE PREPARED FOR WHAT YOU FIND!!!! Have a friend that you can cry to - be sure your WS is not home nor will be home soon after checking....Often times it is SO Heartbreaking

Agree with GoodWife. I used spy software and it showed me everything. Fortunately, NOTHING was happening so I was able to rebuild trust for my husband by independently verifying that he was being faithful! So, it can work both ways.

I know!

I came across a Yahoo e-card with fireworks and hearts and music that said:
KAREN DARLIN; I love you~~signed by my husband
Those words are imprinted in my mind!
This was a little over a year ago and it is back to him loving only me.
(Well, he probably still has love for HER in his heart but she has moved on to someone else.)
Sincerely, Julie Jo

<small>[ December 12, 2003, 08:35 AM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>

Another tip if they are using yahoo messenger...

there's a little file called 'ypager.log' in the

Unless your spouse knows about this file (which most people don't -- its a system file), it will give you a log of EVERY person they've talked to and the time

On 11/25 19:51:15| P2P: Send ControlMsg, to:usernameXX, from:usernameYY, action=3
Date

On 11/25 19:51:15| P2P: Send ControlMsg, to:usernameXX, from:usernameYY, action=3
Military time

On 11/25 19:51:15| P2P: Send ControlMsg, to:usernameXX, from:usernameYY , action=3
Yahoo user names. You can go to the profile site for yahoo http://profiles.yahoo.com/usernameYY
and see what their profile looks like

They can delete history files, chat archive, etc, but unless they are SUPER-computer-saavy, they won't think to look here. It won't tell you WHAT is being said, but it will tell you who and when.

What about MSN Messanger? Does it have the same type of file and if so, what is it called? Thanks.

Vic,

I did some research on this, and there doesn't appear to be any way to track MSN without purchasing some form of tracking software. There is a free download called MSN Plus that looks like it will provide archive/logging, but I THINK it changes the look of Messenger (I haven't tried it myself), and it appears that the user can change the archive settings by poking around the preferences a little. I'll keep looking and post if I find anything.

--HH2

OK, completely ignore the MSN Plus comment in my last post. After digging a little more into it, dicovered that there's a function that will let the user password protect their session... kind of counter-productive.

--HH2

ok--what if they only have contact out of the home. computer at work and such. any ideas for this. i know alot of people are in that situation.

Ask your spouses phone company for a "detailed handy bill".
One that will shows the numbers that he has called.

This was how I "caught" my WS. He didn't know about this. All you have to know is the "code" that was given when he bought his handy.

-check the car for "hidden stuff". This seems to be a favorite place to hide things.
"Clean his car for him". The first hint that something is "wrong" is when he doesn't want you to "clean his car" and when he acts offensive about this.

-you might want to get the "incoming calls" in his handy "redirected" directly to your home. It will not be a secret for long but if there is something going on, there will be phone contact probably after the weekend as soon as Monday morning and he won't notice this "very fast".

-another tip: put a few drops of "food colouring" into his socks. He won't notice this immediately but if he comes home with "clean feet" the chances that he has taken off his socks because §&$% are big.

-if he sleeps "very deep" use a magic-marker and write something onto his back!!!!!or some other part of his body where he cannot read.
If something is going on this will definately be seen and it's either going to be gone or he's going to be "shook up!".

sorry, I haven't got anymore time.
take care
bb

What is a handy?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Another tip is on the computer, click on "History" or the key 'CTRL' (control) and the key 'H' at the same time...
It will show all the sites visited that day and if you click on view or site most visited, you will get a list of all the sites...If there are some different e-mail addresses, you will know they have a secret account and secret password.
Of course if she or he is wise they will delete these but they may forget!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is true but I have found that most people know about the history and will delete it as my X-WS did. But... in Internet Explorer you can go to Tools, Internet Options, Settings, View Files and you will see every site they have been to. Most people do not know about this. That is how I caught my XWS cheating. I saw that he had logged on to Yahoo mail and since he didn't have an account there that I knew about I knew there was something going on. I then went to windows explorer and just skimmed down through each and every file and low and behold I actually found a few of the actual emails he had read and sent from the Yahoo mail site.

Computers store a whole lot more information than most people are aware of and if you want to find something bad enough, time and a little patience is all it takes.

Good Googlely Goo <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ,
This place is Spy University. But I'm grateful. Thanks for tips.

how do i get a password to check a phone bill online .i tried to get into my w acct. she has verizon

You don't have to pay any money for keyloggers, really-- here is a free one- its the one I used to get my H's passwords to his email accounts.
Klogger

The only thing is, you need to put in an exception to this file in your antivirus program. Apparantly, its listed as a Trojan (IT IS NOT A VIRUS) and the Norton Antivirus can detect it. I have a feeling someone on the staff or a customer of Norton reported it once they discovered it on their computer. The name of the file to write in as an exception is klogger.exe

Now...if that other keylogger starts up on its on immediately on the computer starting, I would consider buying it. Klogger has to be started manually by doubleclicking it at each startup. It shuts down when the computer is shut off. Im going to ask a friend if there is a way I can get it to start automatically.

she does not check her phone bill online

eemd, my post was to everyone, not just you.

I think her verizon password would be a number, right? Does she have a habit of using the same password for ATM cards and such?

I really don't know how to help you. I don't allow cell phones in my home right now.

What if you own a mac? How to you check yahoo messenger logs??