MelodyLane,

sorry for getting you confused. A "handy" is a cell phone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
take care
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MOJODiva,

Family Key Logger can start automatically when you start the computer.

HOWEVER, there is an icon in the lower right hand corner of the screen (near the sound control etc... icons) It is an icon of a keyboard.

When you purchase the registration number for $29.00 you receive a registration code. You then right click on the keyboard icon and select "Options".

In the options menu, you would select Auto Start UP, Remove from Add/Delete Programs, Stealth Start Up (meaning the icon does not appear without YOU typing in Control/Alt/Shift and a letter. In order to select the "Stealth" Option, it will take you to the registration area where you will type in a registration code that is e-mailed to you shortly after you make your purchase.

After you have it installed, go the the START Menu and drag the Family Key Logger into another folder so it does not appear on the start up menu. You can also right click on the name in the start up menu and re-name the program - for example - I named mine "LeapFrog" in order to hide it from WH.

THEN - Go to the Control Panel, Select Internet Options, Then Select Clear History and Clear Cookies. This will eliminate all signs of the Spy Arsanel web site.

PS> I also purchased a software called NET NANNY. This tracks all web sites and logs all key strokes. However it only works with newer versions of Microsoft Windows and gave me a hard time in my compter.

I took our computer one day to Best Buys Help Technical Help Desk and explained my situation. They were MORE than Willing to help me out!!!!!!!!
Highly recommend this!! WH was out of town hunting so I had time on my hands to take computer in without him knowing.

When I was cheating, ExOM bought me phone cards to use so that the charges didn't show up on the phone.

Also, I made frequent short trips out to the store so I could call him on a pay phone. Yecch.

Most of all, I remember not letting my husband go into my personal belongings anymore. Purse, etc. How sad.

I'm sickened at the reminders here of my descent into a horrible part of me!

HP

This worked for me. If you live in a small enough town, call all the motels when he goes out suspiciously. Ask for WS' room. I did this and my WS answered the phone. They got away that night.

Stupid idiot that he was, he went back to the same hotel a couple of days later and I caught them on D-Day. The receptionist even told me his room number. He thought he had fooled me because they got together during the day.

Also, you don't need a semen detection kit to see it on the underwear. I found the dried spots on his underwear but this is not the same as catching them in the act.

This is bringing back bad memories but it's necessary to bring the A out into the light or else they will continue to deny, deny.

I purchased a book called "Is he cheating on you? 829 Telltale Signs" by Ruth Houston. It lists signs wome usually overlok, signs he wouldn't think to cover up, signs, impossible to conceal, signs that reveal the OW, etc. It is available at www.LifestylePublications.com

I tried the link below and was redirected to another site. I found the page on the link below. It is actually a book. However the author give a few free pointers.

http://www.ishecheatingonyou.com/

HeavyHeart2- I tried finding the file you referred to, 'ypager.log', and couldn't find it. I'm not sure if my H uses msn messenger, but I do know he uses a few hotmail accounts. Will this file help me?

Maybe I just need to download one of these spywares that you are all talking about.

GoodWife92- That cracks me up to think of you walking into the store like you did, with computer in hand. Why couldn't I have thought of that? That's confidence. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks for all advice.

<small>[ December 22, 2003, 04:07 PM: Message edited by: tofeelthelove ]</small>

ToFeeltheLove,

THANKS and a HUGE HUG for the compliment! I needed it

Good Luck to you!

My ex wife had her cell phone bills sent to a PO Box. Call the cell phone company and ask for a copy of the cell bills to be sent to you and confirm the address. Also check for other bank accounts.

Also. Check receipts. They will buy 2 of the same product i.e. shirts, presents etc... That are supposed to be for you.

^^bump^^

I guess what hotels or spas my husband visiting and i guess when... I think he visit prostitutes. There is an illigal service in the hotel or spa If I call to the hotel how can I check if he is there ? Will they never let me to talk to him? I don't know the number of the room where he is... May be men know how dose this service works and how can I know ?

for those in the UK

http://www.followus.co.uk

allows you to track WS's mobile phone and see where he/she is (need to register the phone by receiving a text and replying to it, so just "borrow" the phone for a bit to do that)...maps out the area in detail where they are...if they're telling the truth about their location etc.

I'm sure there's an equivalent service for the US...just google it out.

My H is fond of internet porn, and after repeatedly promising he won't use it on the family computer...have found it time and again.

I use the Find Files option on the start menu. I set it up to search the hard drive for all files altered for a certain number of days. If I suspect that day...I will search for one day's worth. No way to hide this. You can also tell if they are accessing websites or mail accounts because it will alter files whenever they call up a program. This is how I found my H's cybering using ICQ. ICQ leaves a history file, and I found the altered file, and read it, using Find Files. Very sexual, it showed his side of hte conversation, and showed that he initiated many excursions...couldn't say he was innocent.