Well Since my WW left some 9 months ago and she has had little to no interest in me or our marriage I find myself growing away from her and our marriage.

Now with Christmas upcomming what do I do should she wish me a merry christmas??

Would it be better to give no response or be politicaly correct and wish her the same?

Because like many other BS I hope she has a lousy xmas with OM deep down.

Goodguy007

I feel your pain and wonder the same thing. My WH has shown same amount of interest and I agree deep down about the lousy holiday wishes.

I think it depends what Plan (A or B) that you are currently in. I'll be checking to see what your replies are.

I'd like to know the answer also.

FF

Mind you I'm only a couple of months into this, and a few weeks into separation, but here's what I'm doing.

First of all, it's been like pulling teeth to get WW to do anything related to the holidays. That's fine, as I'm perfectly willing and able to do most things myself. However, with now 3 parental households, and 3 grandparent households, it takes some planning for everyone to have the chance to see the kids on Christmas. Well, I just talked to my 15 yo SD, and even SHE doesn't know what's going on. So it seems that WW hasn't been doing the best job of even getting that part worked out.

So anyway, my plan is, I got her a gift and a card, and I'm giving it to her. I've been wanting to give her this gift for months, and the car does a good job of expressing how I feel right now.

As much as it sickens me to know what she's done and is still doing, I'm not going to be something I don't want to be, just out of spite. So she gets her gift, even though she probably won't even say thank you. She gets the card, even though she probably won't be touched by the sentiment. She gets a Merry Christmas from me, even if I'm totally ticked off, because that's what this holiday means to me.

It will be interesting to see the responses that's for sure.

FF - Since I'm not in Plan B - I guess I'm still in A. Though it's tough when WW has been gone.

WW - placed me in a no contact area or limited contact back in June.


Uncomfortably Numb,

Sorry to hear that your so new to this mess at this time of year. Try and stay strong as it does get better with time.

Just a suggestion - take some input from the girls regarding the holiday plans. Let them be where they feel the most comfortable, give them some control back into there life.

good luck.