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#1104433 12/25/03 01:10 AM
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Hi. For those who have not heard my story yet, my wife had told me she needed some time to think about the relationship. She is having an Internet Affair, which has has been going on for about 3 months now.

We separated about 10 days ago. She is still staying with me as she is unable to afford an apartment. She finally got a job just last night and will be moving out as soon as she gets some money.

I've been reading Michelle Weiner-Davis and Dr. Harley's books on relationships, affairs, etc.

Anyway, she had just purchased tickets to London (We are in AK, USA) to go spend 10 days w/her lover. We also have a 17 months old baby, who she is leaving with me.

What do I do? I feel like it is time to move to Plan B, but I do not know how as she is still staying with me. I have been doing everything Dr. Harley and Dr. Michelle-Davis suggest in their books, which is improving myself and trying to meet WS's emotional needs. I started going out w/friends, working out, eating healthy and all that comes with it. My WS seems to be liking me a lot now as she started asking for hugs, cuddling time, telling me she likes me very much as a friend and that she has been extremely happy w/me. But still, she is going to London. I am hurt as hell, do not know what to do, almost ready to give up on HER, US, and Myself. Why the hell am I trying to do all this if she is going to go to London and F**K him as much as she can in the 10 days she will be there?

I've tried getting counseling here, but the lady I talked to was just telling me how to "divorce properly"? I do not have any energy to try and look for any more counseling... How does it work w/Dr. Harley? Has anyone done it? How busy is he? How far ahead do you have to schedule a phone conference? I AM SO TIRED OF THIS EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER.

Anybody out there from Anchorage, AK? Do you know any good counselors?

Thanks a million for your support.

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energy to try and look for any more counseling... How does it work w/Dr. Harley? Has anyone done it? How busy is he? How far ahead do you have to schedule a phone conference?
Dr. Harley doesn’t do counseling. His son Steve and daughter Jennifer do the phone counseling.

Usually you can get an appt within a week or two. I talked with Steve and he’s really a great motivator.
Make sure you have read “Surviving An Affair” and are familiar with MB principles before your appt.

<small>[ December 24, 2003, 12:25 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

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currently reading his "surviving an affair". our situation fits perfectly some of his stories. i'm just going nuts and it's Christmas....

my WS announced that two of her best girlfriends have decided to leave their spouses as well after she had left me... what a coincidence!!! i talked to one of them last night and told her not to. advised her of MB and told her to read some of his books. i hope my WS does not see it as me trying to be sneaky and to get her friends on my side...

thanks Chris.


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