I just saw my mothers phone # on his cell phone. No one lives at my mothers now, but he was there today he said to check her filters. I took his cell phone with me and I hit redial from her phone and it called his cell phone. What reason would he dial his own cell phone which he has right with him except to erase the redial # off of my moms phone. He called the O/W from there. Can you think of any other explanation. I want to confront him, but on some of my readings I was told to grin and bear it..... What should I do, let it ride of ask him about it???????????? If I sound hyper now, yes I am.......

Lefty,

This level of deceit is revealing if only to tell you one thing:

1. He doesn't want to have you take it to "over". So he's concealing his addiction from you through an elaborate scheme.

You can use this knowledge one of two ways.

One - emotional anihilation. Trash the man. Level all the amunition you've got at him.

Two - the marriage builder choice. Find out all you can about PLAN A and DO IT! Immaculately. Flawlessly. Work on yourself, Lefty. Become filled with self-esteem and value yourself rather than seek someone to value you for yourself. Channel all your hyperactivity into this one sole purpose.

Give it six months if you can. If a flawless Plan A hasn't extracated him from his addiction, then go immediately to an equally flawless Plan B. By this time, you will have no need for dramatics. You will know the woman of worth that you are and that you are worth his faithfulness and loyalty and will get it or he's out.