Well, our 6th wedding anniversary was on Friday the 2nd. And I did not even shed a tear about what has happened to the marriage. Not sure if this is a good thing or if it is a bad thing, the day just seemed to pass without any drama. I didn't feel sad about it, I really didn't feel anything much.

I do think I was waiting for some effort at contact from him. But it never came, so I guess that this just confirms what I already know: that my marriage really is dead and waiting to be buried.

On a lighter note, we have had some simply fabuluous summer weather lately, and I have been spending days at the beach reading and relaxing and enjoying simple things again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

enigma-

Glad to hear you are enjoying some great weather. At the beach? I wish! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sorry to hear he didn't make any contact. Not surprised though. What an in-your-face reality for a WS, to think of their wedding anniversary. Don't think of it as a bad sign, necessarily. Just predictable, WS not facing reality.

As far as your own numbness, can't blame you. We have such a great way of dealing with what we can. After expending so much energy being hurt, sometimes we just give that up for awhile for our own sake, health and sanity. That's not such a bad thing, in fact it sounds like you have just been focusing on some positive things, feeling good, enjoying the beach. Oh, the simple things. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Good for you.

Hi Enigma
I just wanted to say hello.
I am so sorry for you. Happy anniverary. Good on you for enjoying the beach. You are clearly in the southern hemisphers. So am I. I am in Australia. Canberra in fact. It is stifling hot here. but no beach. I am moving to Sydney next week, so look forward to the beach then. Are you in Oz too?

I celebrated my anniversary last week. My 21st on the 27th Dec. I am in recovery with my former Wh. It was less than a happy occasion as we had a pretty heated arguement. But that is cleared up now. I was triggered as he had not organised anything and said why up to him? I guess he had a point but at the time it triggered me into thinking that he didn't car enough to do anything himself.

Anyway I guess I am fortunate thet his affair is well and truly oiver and that we are in recovery so I really feel for you. I hope that your H sees through his fog and realises what he is losing and cones back to you

Regards
C&S

Thanks for your thoughtstofeelthelove and [I]confused&scared[I]

Although I have been saying for quite some time that my decision to divorce has been made, actually deep down it wasn't. I can see now that I was holding on to some hope that through Christmas or on the anniversary he would realise what he has lost by leaving me. But the lack of contact over this time, particularly on our wedding anniversary makes me see that it is well and truly finished. Just a confirmation of what I already knew.

BTW, confused&scared, I am in New Zealand. It's been a great summer so far! Enjoy Sydney!