My wife & I have been married for 4 and a half years and been together for 6 years. We had the closest relationship, physically & mentally that anyone could ever have. My son from a previous marriage has ADHD and poses a problem for her. After we bought a house, she developed a gambling addiction. I said I would stick with her through thick & thin. And I did. When I was forced into a job with bad hours and she felt a lack of freedom because of my son, who is home part time, she gambled even more. Then I started to distance myself from her and gained weight. Then she stopped gambling in favor of an affair and told me I neglected her and it was too late. Since then I have pleaded with her to stop this mess, she is breaking up a family (she has done this to two other guys), but she only cares about running from the situation. I love her so much and I know she needs help but she refuses it. The guy she is with has a questionable background, not good for my stepdaughter. I don't know what to do, when I say I love her, she says I know, and she used to say it back before this guy came into the picture. Then she wanted to bankrupt the gambling debt, but I refused. I am at a loss, what can I do? I am bothering her a lot, trying to get her to stay, but she keeps going out with him and now wants to move into an apartment, but stops short of wanting a divorce.
I am thinking of filing for legal separation, my religous beliefs prohibit divorce, but I am asking anyone here for advice. Please, I am desperate right now.
