I am not sure that it is okay to talk about this, but I need to know if anyone out there has done a Retrouvaille weekend and if it was a good thing? Is it very religious? Are there any other things like it that have also worked for people?

Hope this is okay. Thank you

My H and I did a Retrouvaille weekend about 3 years ago. There are six followup meetings involved (which we did not attend for geographic reasons). Also, there are chapters in communities which you can join if you want, I believe they meet monthly.

It is not very religious at all. There is prayer at the beginning of the meetings and grace at the meal. In the testimonies of the fascilitators (all former attendees) you "MAY" hear about their own personal religious/spiritual opinions. But the actual work itself does not push a religious agenda, not at all.

I thought it was powerful. It's a lot of work, exhausted by the end of it. And there is a lot of followup work required. But, as I say this, what more worthwhile project is there than preserving your marriage/family.

You do not have to "tell your story"...in fact, I think I never did learn what the issues were in most of the marriages. I suspect infidelity is a biggie (it certainly was with the fascilitators).

If you have the opportunity to try this, I highly recommend it. It alone is not the answer, but it is a good tool, a very good tool. And, it offers HOPE.

I would have loved to have gone to a Retrouvaille Weekend.

I received information about it from a woman within my church. Her and her husband went and she said it was wonderful. She said it would be excellent for me and my WH to attend because he is not as spiritual as I am and would not feel too intimidated by it.

It is a Catholic based organization but is open to all marride couples regardless of their religous background

I just read your profile....and it seems your spouse is still in the affair. One condition they have for couples is that the affair has ended. (That is true of many marriage counsellors as well).

Is he willing to stop? (I know, IF ONLY!!!!!)

JanetS
How do you read someone's profile?
Are you talking to Neb or Me?

Goodwife: It was Neb's profile I was referring to. By profile, I mean the little blurb that is under the post...together 12 years, married 5 years etc. etc. etc. I noticed after that the affair is still continuing. When they sign you up, they ask specifically if one of the partners is involved with a third person, and if so, they will not register you. I guess they know as well as we all do that when the WS is involved with the third person, all attempts at working on the marriage are not sincere. They don't want to waste space.

Yes. I think she might be willing to end the affair if there was a reason for hope for us or a direction to go. I don't think she wants us to not work things out, but she doesn't think it is possible.