Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 545
Member
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 545 |
I have to see him today to discuss some health insurance policies we are thinking of changing. Should I tell him I suspect he is getting intimate with her, not just boarding a room from her like he told my daughter the other day. He got mad when she said about leaving me to go back to her. Why can't he face the fact of what he is doing to this whole family. Is her [censored] lined with gold that he is blinded to the reality of things and how it will affect the grandchildren, his adult children. I can't see letting him off the hook and ignoring all that we know. Its like we are becoming liers too just like him, and to save his face......... And I would like to know how serious this is....Do I have the right to ask that too....?????????
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 4,083
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 4,083 |
Surprise him. DON'T bring up his affair or his behavior. Stick to business.
He'll wonder what you're up to.
Mystery is good. Don't give any answers. Just the facts on the insurance then leave. Have a purpose - some place to be.
See, Lefty - you're totally predictable right now. He's expecting that you've followed him and found out where he was. He'll be expecting a confrontation. He has to be as addicted to the drama as you are.
Break free. Stay sober today. Just for today, don't imbibe the drama of his behavior.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 816
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 816 |
don't confront until you have verifiable proof. you've gone to him with your suspicions and needling and drama and games all along. has any of it worked so far?
have you done any of the reading that chris-ca has suggested to you (numerous times) on your other thread? if not, you'd be wise to do so. otherwise the soap opera that's your life will drag on and on and on.
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
538
guests, and
72
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,623
Posts2,323,505
Members71,979
| |
Most Online3,224
May 9th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
