This is what I wrote. Any input will be appreciated.LUnadove


Dear WH,

I love you with all of my heart, but I cannot continue to live this way. From the moment I saw you dressed from head to toe in black on that hot August day, I’ve always loved you. There is something about you that still makes me smile. Yes, wh, even now I still love you.

I am sorry for the errors I have made in our marriage. Believe me, I know that I was not perfect and have caused you pain, too. The top of the errors was to have stopped contact with you when you needed me most. I am sorry for that.

I thought my heart could never be broken again. Yet again I have been proven wrong. Yes, wh, this hurts me as much as when you told me about ow1. The love and respect I have for you is being destroyed. The small amount I have is dwindling.

The reason for this letter is to let you know I feel it is time that we have no contact with each other at all. As long as you are having an affair, I cannot speak to you. I can no longer stand the pain of trying to be your friend and not your wife.

I have blocked your e-mail address from my list and I expect no letters or phone calls from you. If you need to speak to me, call your dad. He knows how to get a hold of me and I’m sure him or MIL will gladly relay messages to Gage.

Our finances are separated so that is not a worry. With you gone I see no reason to discuss your visitation with Gage. If you do decide to visit him when you come back, call your dad or MIL and I will work something out with them.

I see no reason for us to have contact with each other anymore. I am here. Waiting for you to return. It may seem that I gave up on the marriage, but I didn’t. I am taking control of the situation I have been put in.

I want us to be able to rebuild our marriage, to create a new life in which everything we do makes us both happy. I never again want to be seperated from you. I want to be your best friend, someone who is always there for you when you need me, and I want you as my best friend as well. I loved you when we married, and I still love you, right up until this day. But until you are willing to end your relationship with her, and take the necessary steps to rebuild our marriage, I cannot be a part of your life.

Love always and forever,
your wife,
Lunadove

LD,
I think you letter is very good. I'm new at this so I'm not sure how much this will mean to you. But my opinion as a WW would be that you are being much more fair to him that he has been to you. I personally have not had to go through a Plan B. My H and I are at least for now, still together and still trying to work things out. But I can and do understand how very difficult this must be for you. I wish you the best of luck.

I'd kill the part about love being destroyed and dwindling. Whether you still love him enough can be discussed when and if he ends the affair.