I'm a "A" surviver (BS), you guys helped me get us through 3 years ago. We now are happily married <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> and now I'm returning the help to a friend of mine, who is going through her husband's A.
Please help me with my friend's situation.

-D day in Nov 2003

-WS met OW who is a co-worker, while he was working in a foreign (her) country, (so no contact on regular basis, except emails & phone)

-After d-day, BS told her H to get out of the house but he ended up staying for a few month longer maybe because financil reason

That's when she informed me and I started to help her with plan A. Things got better between them without LBs.

-WS went to the country on a business trip again, came home and told BS that he's choosen OW and want to move out.

-BS contacted OW by the phone and email, according to their conversations, OW gave up on him and wanted to be just friends. She wanted to cut off the relationship, but he insisted on continueing.

-WS still wanted to move out, got an apartment and living there for 3 weeks now. When BS asked how long he wanted to live separately, he replied longer than 3 months.

BS is suffering a lot, wonderign if there is still hope. I'm encouraging her, that he'll be back soon since she's doing pretty good plan A. He came home for the weekend twice, and had a good time with her and their 2 daughters (9 and 4 years old).

-I suggested to take a personality test, she figured he is INTJ. She is ENFP.

-Living arrangement was a little troublesome. They were (she and daughters are still) living on the same apartment building as her parents, who are pretty ... intrusive? They mean good to their daughter of course, but when parents butt in the life of married children, you know what happen... I'm guessing one of big reasons he moved out was her parents living so close. They blasted him pretty badly when they found it out. They believe their daughter should divorce him since he "dumped" her. She was not really standing firm for her husband either. I think she's afraid to leave her parents. She works and depends on her mon to watch her kids.

Since HE wanted to move out, it isn't really plan B, is it? I'm not sure, I wasn't in this situation... but I'm sure there is a lot of things she can do to make the situation better... so that he'll want to come back. It's hard because they're already separated. What can she do?

I've been emailing back and forth and she settled down quite a bit, but there are so many things I can't help with. (She was having a trouble to access this forum). I really want them to work things out. Like I could. I know it's possible. Please help us!

Thanks so much!