Yes, I have been dishonorable and told my wife in May 2003 that I cheated. From the threads I have read, there seems to be pattern for cheating spouse to want the whole situation to be swept under the carpet and for life to go on as normal. Reality is this is not easy which I see everyday from the way it has affected my hurt wife. I am not real sure what this discussion group will do for me, or even what I am expecting. I guess the purpose of this posting was just to say "something" and for starters will continue to read what other people have to say. I am not proud of what I have done (realize the only one of I have to convince is my wife). At a minimum this group may show me what my wife is going through. For a cheater there is only one sure thing, you can never call yourself an honorable man again. I have three beutiful sons that I am responsible for teaching to be honorable and I have blown my credentials. As for credibility with my wife I can forget it. Thanks for listening.

<small>[ January 15, 2004, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: dishonorableone ]</small>

oops, double post

<small>[ January 15, 2004, 04:06 AM: Message edited by: dishonorableone ]</small>

diso

First, maybe post this to the "In Recovery" thread. You'll likely get more/quicker responses.

I'd say, you may find insight into what your wife is going through but IMHO, a WS is incapable of realizing the pain of a BS. Not at least until you've walked a mile in the shoes of a BS.

I used to be a firm believer in life-long loss of credibility. Once a cheater-always-a-cheater kind of thing. Read the board, and read Harley's stuff, I was wrong and so are you, it is NOT inf fact a life-long loss. It's all about recovery. What was done can't be undone. It can be forgiven, but not forgotten. But, like anything else, recovery takes two.


M.

Hi there Dis. you are not alone. You would be amazed at how many people who post here are just like you and me. We have cheated, some of us are still married some not. We all have one thing in common, we are here(on MB). I have to say I am glad that I have managed to post a reply early on. I do not condone what you have done, but as I did it, I can understand how you feel. At this stage you are thinking the most awful things about yourself. Hey, it it makes things easier, your W is probably thinking the same things. Anyway, hang in there, there will be a lot of postings for you to read. If you need anything, just ask.

Regards

dishonorableone...

please change your nick...no need to slam yourself with your nick...that's our job... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

kidding kidding...

are you two in counseling..
are you in some type of recovery...
how's she treating you...
how you treating her...
is she punishing you.
are you punishing yourself
does your wife ask a lot..
do you offer full disclosure...
do you want to just get it behind you...

are you in no contact with otherperson...none zippo..

and why did you tell...

just some things to ask...

ark