Hi Everyone:

I have not posted in sometime, it was just too painful to relive everything. I do have a post here under GQ from about 3 months ago if anyone is interested. Just to let you know: me and WH are still living together, he still has contact with OW1 but other than that I dont know. OW2 stepped into picture around Sept. This is when WH turned his attention and energies to OW2..therefore WH and OW1 basically died out. OW1 got pissed about OW2. The only thing that has kept us from seperating is finances..on the verge of losing everything. I fully know I should be in Plan B, but need to keep a roof over my children. Since I have stopped posting the months have been horrendous. Basically WH says our problems have nothing to do with anyone else. No intentions of leaving me for anyone. But will not stop contact or committ to rebuilding our marriage. He has been telling me lately this has nothing to do with me. So here is my new question. How can you tell if your WH has a sex/love and or porn addiction?

Those who remember me will probaly hit me with 2x4..I know I deserve it. But please lets chat..this seems much more than a cheating spouse.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But will not stop contact or committ to rebuilding our marriage. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is your lightning rod... Please check out www.everymansbattle.com for info on porn/sex addiction... and for yourself... www.newlife.com . I would recommend Cloud & Townsend's "Boundaries" and "Changes That Heal."

No one can decide for you when you separate or go to plan b... but YOU MUST decide what your boundaries are... set them... and stick with them... there should come a point when you can tell your H what you can accept in your marriage... and what you can't... and enforce it... for your own mental health.

Cali

Another website you can check out for loads of information on sex/love/porn addiction is:

www.understandingsexualaddiction.org

Karen