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Please help me understand how long I should wait, this is killing me! What was going through your mind while you were seperated and what did your H do that had the most impact for you to reconcile or even allow him to try to meet the EN you were finding with O/M. Many of our friends and family know about her A I've thought of having an affair or starting a rumor that I've had an affair or telling everyone that I had an affair and my W/W found out and left me to have an affair of her own. Would this help. Please read MISS WIFE for whole story. Should I confront the O/M.
Thanks for any replies.
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Joined: Nov 2003
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Hmmm..I dont like dishing advice, Im usually the one seeking it. I am the W/W in my case, and if I were your wife, confronting the OM would make me angry, drive me further away from you.
Truth is if your wife is so in a fog, its very hard for anyone to make her come out of it.
Dont know what else to tell you about it.
Sorry
Sally.
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I KNOW this was wrong, but I didnt get any response from my WWEx until I left her alone....plan B and started going out. THEN, and only THEN did she act like she gave 2 cents.......she was seeing a guy all along.
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I KNOW this was wrong, but I didnt get any response from my WWEx until I left her alone....plan B and started going out.
It's not that it was "wrong", but...
Going out is not part of Plan B.
If you are going out, then you are not in Plan B.
Also, Plan B is not started until you send a Plan B letter which lets your spouse know you want to remain married.
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Yeah, I guess I modified that plan B a bit.......I told her I wanted to stay married instead of the letter......but I did initiate no contact unless we met to exchange the kids. I realise I should not have dated during our separation, but at the time I felt justified since she was seeing another man.
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I've thought of having an affair or starting a rumor that I've had an affair or telling everyone that I had an affair and my W/W found out and left me to have an affair of her own. Would this help.
Short answer is No, this won't help...at all. As you'll discover if you stick with this long enough, honesty is always the best option. In the meantime, I'd suggest you go silent until you come up with some sort of game plan. REad up on Plan A and B then decide where you need to be. Whatever you do, try to resist begging or pleading with her or threatening this OM.
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