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Okay, I need a little help. First let me say that I'm not feeling like I need to do something crazy. I've given up porn and the habits associated with it. It's been a while since there's been any SF. Isee my wife in all of her Glory in the morning and it just gets my wick lit, so to speak! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Any ideas other than a cold shower would help.
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Talk, talk. talk...sex starts in the head with women. For men it is visual, but for women it is communication.
Help with the dinner dishes, help get the kids to bed, fold the laundry...that's how you'll get more action!
If you really want to pull out all stops, go shopping, cook dinner and serve and clean up. You'll get what you want!
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NJ,
That's the thing. I've been doing all of the cooking, cleaning, homework with kids. Talk to her as much as she will let me... Not to blow my own horn, but I've been perfect (her own words). This has been since 8-9-03. We've had times of SF on three occassions since D-day. She's in foggy conditions right now so I don't think that SF on an ongoing basis is in the near future.
I guess I should stay out of the room when she's showering, but man that's hard to do. Stick with Plan-A and become attractive to her emotionally is my privilege.
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Hang in there. There is also viagra for women. Sounds like you are on the right track, does she understand that this is a great need for you? Does she know that you are attracted to her? I nwonder if my H still finds me attractive after being with a younger, childless OW.
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NJ, I don't think anything concerning my needs matter to her right now. Heavy Fog! I am the betrayer. Even though she's still seeing the OM, she justified in her actions because I've hurt her worse than she's hurt me... So I continue to provide an atmosphere where she can see my sorrow and grief through a healthy dose of love through Plan A. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Titleist
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T, how about something that creates physical contact but not sex. If you can stand it that it. What worked for me was giving fws a backrub every night, just a back rub, which was very hard to do. But that small thing led to other "stuff" it took awhile but now all I have to do is mention backrub and I don't have to rub his back at all. lol
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Yep, that's what I'm trying. I'll I'm doing know if running my fingers through her hair and massaging her scalp. This is all she will allow for now. Even though I'm a WS & BS, I want her to know that I long to touch her in a non-sexual and sexual manner. I'm sensitive and realize I can't put the cart before the horse.
She's well worth waiting for!
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