What a terrible day this turned out to be. H and I had been getting along well talking to each other over the phone. H even called me 3 times yesterday because he said he was thinking about me.
Well, today I met him for lunch. Went well. But then after work I did a really stupid thing. I stopped by his office and told him I needed/wanted to talk to him.
I asked him if he still wanted to reconcile. Sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn't. So I told him I wanted to move on with my life (again) and told him if we had any chance at all of our marriage surviving, then I thought we should spend some time together. He agreed. But the thing is, he agrees but his idea of spending time together is an occasional lunch and talking to me on the phone for a few minutes.
I also mentioned to him that his "living arrangements" weren't helping the marriage either. He agreed. Said he's comfortable with the situation the way it is and this is a tough decision for him to make. So I told him I'd consult an attorney next week. H got very upset because he said if we're getting divorced, he doesn't want attorneys involved. Once again I'm making decisions on my own, according to him.
I know I made h angry because he got "that look" in his eyes again whenever I say or do something he doesn't like.
I told h I didn't want a divorce and would like to make things better but he's still sooooo angry with me, that he won't listen to me.
I know I probably shouldn't have confronted him but I was to the point I felt like I was being strung along and I'm not seeing any action from h.
We ended by h saying that maybe we should see a marriage counselor for a couple sessions and see how things go.
What should I do now?? Should I sit back and wait? I know h won't contact me for a few days because I confronted him. I guess I felt like nothing was happening to fix our problems but suppose my actions tonight will trigger something.
