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<small>[ September 19, 2004, 05:34 PM: Message edited by: MakeYourOwnSunshine ]</small>
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I suggest you don't send it.
It simply sounds like you are trying to make him feel guilty.
Change the letter to, "Please do not contact me anymore.
You are now married and it is wrong for me to be in your life any longer."
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"Did you have devastating feelings when your X re-married?"
No.
It proved beyond all doubt that they were both the wacked out nuts everybody assumed they were.
As for your letter, what are you trying to accomplish? If it's an act of grieving, you've already accomplished this by sharing it with us. We validate your sorrow and heartfelt expressions. I don't know your story, but assuming that infidelity was involved - that's why you're on this forum - I'd recommend a different tact, depending on which of you was the betrayer.
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<small>[ September 19, 2004, 05:27 PM: Message edited by: MakeYourOwnSunshine ]</small>
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Rachel - I recommend you do what's best for Rachel. No one here can know what that is, but we can speculate. If you feel you need to send a final goodbye, then do it. But don't do it for any other reason. If you choose to send something, I recommend you let that be symbolic of the absolute end of your relationship with him and include a request that he never, ever contact you again. Then you can go forward with a clean slate without always looking over your shoulder.
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