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What one event(s) that you might want to change to avoid this mess in your life ?.
Never met W/H don't cut it ... LOL!.
Mine is I should stand firm on what I beleive and take control rather than following her. Such as we should go to MC on d-day#1, when we plan to buy a house, move in to our property, and let her be a stay home mom while we are not ready financially. I would beleive it might change the outcome ....
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When she said, "This is really a bad idea. I have a baaaaaad feeling about this..."
I wish I had said, "Hon, I think you should never speak to him again."
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I wouldn't change a thing.
I am comfortable in the knowledge of who I am/was and what I was providing in the marriage prior to my H's affair.
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ohmy_marie,
<strong> I wouldn't change a thing.</strong>[/QUOTE]
You might miss the cue next time it happens again.
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Redhat-- </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> You might miss the cue next time it happens again. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What exactly is that supposed to mean? Please explain yourself. ~Marie
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There are so many things I would change, starting with cherishing my marriage always and knowing back then what it takes to make it work...Other than that, perhaps when we made the decision for him to go away for 6 months, I wouldn't have been so obliging, or when I found he had feelings for someone else, I would have asked him to stay with me instead of finishing his course and starting with her, or maybe when I found out he cheated, I would have asked him to leave our home and let him figure things out on his own. Maybe started plan A/Plan B sooner...Gosh, there is so much I would change, but I also know I can't live in the past, I did what I thought was right at the time...
<small>[ January 26, 2004, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: zacharysmom ]</small>
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marie,
Don't take it wrong ... this is just OT. What I meant is we contibuted one way or another to the situation that lead to our spouse's A. It might be that we didn't see it coming earlier ... it might be that you did everything right and he did everything wrong before d-day or A got started ...
There might be a pivotal point that you would do differently and might change the outcome of this mess. I don't know ... there might be none ... however this is just OT ... lighten up !.
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When I started the infatuation with OM, and H said he was uncomfortable about it and asked me if it was a good idea for him (H) to allow OM to live next door and work with me - I would have admitted that I was totally infatuated with OM and wanted to **** him, and that, yes, it probably would be a good idea to ask him (OM) to leave now before it gets worse.
Believe me - I have my guard up now for any future OM's - boy - any bad twinges, and they will be outta here!
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Thank you for the clarification, redhat.
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