Hey guys. does the cheating spouse ever look to see if you really have changed and if so how do they usually react to this "new" person. I believe you should get on with your life without paying much attention to getting your spouse back since it takes 2 yes's or 1 no. But do most cheating spouses look back and do they rethink their position if they see you have a better life without them?

Absolutely, that's what cheating spouses do. Within a few months of D-Day, and by the time I moved out on November 1, I had lost about 30 lbs, started going to the gym again, was going out more without "asking her permission" as she called it, had new glasses, was doing my hair differently, etc. Since then I've been very happy in my new apartment, seeing friends, enjoying my new life. And, since then, she's asked me on three separate occasions to come back.

At one point, after I moved out, she said, "you look really good. I wish you could have done all that for me."

What crap. In 2000, I got in the best physical shape of my life. I was eating right. I had a number of outside interests. I was about to embark on a new career endeavour. And it didn't matter worth a damn to her, because she had A #3 at the height of all this activity.

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