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I have a strong urge to call wife right now. She took the children to daycare and she is at home (I'm sure with OM). It is killing me and I want to call and ask to speak with her. I know this will frustrate her beyond reason. Someone talk me out of it quickly!!!
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Hope I'm not late
solon.... is this going to help you? to talk to her and LB big time???
Let us know
<small>[ January 27, 2004, 02:25 PM: Message edited by: matilde ]</small>
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I haven't called yet. I know one thing it will do, is slow my heart rate. Whenever I have this urge and I act on it I always feel calmer afterwards. I may regret doing it, but I am ease afterwards.
It just does not make sense to me to sit back and allow them to do whatever so easily. If I were in an affair and the husband kept getting in the way, I would just leave the situation.
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When I knew my wife was with OM......I dayum sure didnt want to talk to her. It wasnt until I didnt give a crap that she freaked out and started calling me. Welcome to the game, and you have to know how to play it........dont call....if you do, it will surely push her away and set you back a few steps.
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what if I called just to say hello and see how she is doing? would that be LBing? I know I will get hurt if she blows me off, like she probably will, but AAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!! I think I am having an anxiety attack. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
I am so tired of this.
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DONT CALL. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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solon </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> If I were in an affair and the husband kept getting in the way, I would just leave the situation. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe I'm mistaken, but that would be trying to control, and it can backfire big time. For sure I know (now) I have called my H when he was with OW. He just shut down the phone and it made me more crazy.... Didi he ended it because I was calling? nope, did she? nope...
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You call and it will likely come across as a an LB and then you will drive her and the OM together. Can you hear them now, "My meddling H just called...hee hee...blah blah blah."
You call and you will make the OM seem MORE appealing to her.
Help with your Panic attack...remove thoughts of the M and A out of your mind. Begin planning for a project. Make your mind active with something else. Every time the M or A encroaches on your thoughts...think of something else until your body feels better and can handle these thoughts...
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oh, my...okay, I am going to log on to yahoo and play a game.
thanks everyone for showing me that calling to break up the sexapade is not the right thing to do. I know she's coming back, it is just a matter of when.
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Yes Play this one is good CUBIS
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didn't work...
you know, my wife is crazy. She has turned her back on all that she knows and is literally sleeping with another man! She has lost her mind!!
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Yes solon
she is temporarily insane...
The thing is, how long are you willing to wait? But in the mean time, try to enjoy life....
I'm not the best example for it... but I did started to mount bike and I love it... DO THINGS!
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yeah, I won't wait forever. We were just such a tight-knit family. We literally did everything together. Now, some man, who was once married and has a kid of his own is with her. I wonder if she is part of his life (his son's) too.
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solon I don't really know your story, but aren't they all are the same? I used to think I had a great M, yada yada yada... Well things change... She can be part of his life now, but is not likely that is going to last forever... solon wait until reality hits her. It will. Meanwhile stand for yourself and for your kids. Give them example. I know is hard, but you have to stand for what you believe on. Your vows, your faith. Those doesn't depend on externals... right? I have to go now... the good thing, is that you didn't made the call <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> yet I hope... keep posting and let others pick up this thread... sometimes we just need to talk for not to act on our impulses... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Take good care
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Calling her will only give her one more thing to be angry with you about.
"Why can't he leave me alone?"
"He's so controlling!"
It won't help. Go for a walk.
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