Had the strangest conversation today....I'd have never believed it if I wasn't there!!

Took short drive to gas station here in small town to get a pack of smokes. Dog came along for the ride. Normal procedure....

I know most of the cashiers pretty well, I've been a customer for well over 2 years, neighborhood yak station ya know! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

They all know that I sell on ebay. I'm known as the "ebay dish lady" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> and I'm rarely without my Dale Earnhardt ball cap.....Daytona fever kicking in, and a kid that's pretty new at the station was asking what I might know about Nascar collectibles on ebay.

A guy came in, asked for his smokes from the other cashier. While he was paying, I said my bubbyes, mentioning that the dog was waiting in the car, probably freezing her cow-spotted tushy off. He asked me what kind of dog she is and I answered, "Rat terrier".

Big deal, right? And he continued, "A guy that I've been working with for the last couple of weeks mentioned that he had one of those!"

Now, I've only ever seen a couple other ratties around here in the last 2 or 3 years....my ears perked up and I said, "Oh yeah?? Live here in town?"

Man answered, "Yeah, his name is XXX and he drives a black SUV. He's given me and a couple of housemates a ride home from work a few times recently." (a halfway house of some sort, I guess)

He continued, "I overheard that you sell on ebay, and the "rat terrier" thingy ... is XXX your hubby?"

I of course said "yes, he is."

Anyway, we chatted for only a minute or so more...he asks, "You do ebay full time? Make good cash?"

Me- " I do ok, but H doesn't like it...."

He must have noticed the confused look on my face, he at least had the grace to look embarrasssed and explained, "All he ever talks about is how miserable he is, working 2 jobs, how he's thinking about moving out, wife doesn't have a "real job"...So he doesn't know for how much longer he'll be able to give us guys a ride home after work"

I said, "I'm not surprised. Nothing new."

Uncomfortable silence---for a few seconds----

Here's the kicker-

Guy said, "Cute little dog! She kinda does look like a little cow! I've never seen a rat terrier. I was trying to imagine from XXX's description. He even mentioned that the biggest reason he hasn't moved already is that he'd miss the dog too much!! Well, gotta go. Tell XXX that (name) said hello...."

Yup. That sounds about right. No way this guy could have learned any of this from anywhere but H...

I haven't decided if I'm gonna try and say anything to H about this conversation when he gets home...

But then again, I'm gonna have to work really hard not to go completely beserk on him either....

How can someone say, "I love you" to your face, and turn around and say things like that behind your back?

Hey, believer--Is "revulsion" a stronger word than "disgust"?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Would any of you folks say anything? If so, what would you possibly say? I'm stumped!

----->Looking for old George Jones or even more ancient Hank Sr. CD..... UGH!! I think I feel a "mood" coming on! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Helen,

Wow, well I'd try to broach the subject w/H something like:

BS: .....heard about a guy today who has a dog like ours. He said he loves his dog and that's the reason why he won't D his W. Imagine that!

Ws: (with a bewildered look). What?

BS: Yea and he seems to be overworked or something about having 2 or 3 jobs. Wow. I sure feel for his W, don't you?

Then walk away.

L.

orchid...

how do you do it?...

can i borrow your brain?...

oaktown...

i would go with orchids line of thought. shock the heck outta him.

now for the funny part.....the dog i got in the pits of my own hell, that saved my life and sanity...yup---a rattie!!!!

one of the most amazing creatures god created in my opinion! her name is angel and she is incredible. she keeps me going even on the darkest of days.

My dear Oak,

No brain, sheer will. BS 'will' .....do whatever it takes.....against all odds (the A is odd - LOL!!!) .

You see learning to babble can come easier if you just don't try to hard. Of course it breaks all the rules of conduct and logic. But then again, isn't this a battle for the life of our family and M? Do you think of Ms. Manners or your mother in times like this? It is a type of survival. While not breaking the law, the tools at the BS disposal are sometimes hidden. Just like support, the BS tools are out there. Just gotta find 'em and use 'em.

Oak, you got my #, call when you can. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

L.

Helen,

How are you doing? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

L.

Grrrr. Doesn't that make you furious? Try not to take it personally - sounds like fogtalk. My H told everyone that would listen different stories about our breakup.

Last year he go a 2003 Harley that he had always wanted. I helped save for it and paid half of payments, put in the credit application and went all over looking for one. When we split, he told a friend that I didn't like the biker lifestyle. Sure wish I'd known that before I spent all that money.

Well I hope you didn't go berserk on him. Anyway, not too berserk.