Hi friends. Today is a hard day for some reason.
Just really feeling sad, remembering how care-free my heart used to be before his affair. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
When I look in the mirror, there is just a sadness on my brow, not the happy face looking back at me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
We have basically recovered, our life is moving forward like it should, but inside is the enduring sorrow; like a person feels when they have lost a loved one.
I know in TIME it will ease.
It has only been since August that the affair ended and was discovered by me.(Found an e-mail!)
Plus I know in my heart that my husband did not for one minute, intentionaly hurt me. (But he DID!)
His intentions were selfish, wanting that forbidden excitement before he grows old, I guess.
I am sure he thought I would never find out and what I didn't know wouldn't hurt me.
We both ended up VERY HURT !
I read this on 'recovery' this morning and her thoughts describe mine so well this morning.
Any of the rest of you feel the same?
Love, Julie
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Well here I am almost 2 months since the initial D-Day (second big day of disclosure was only 2 weeks ago) and today I feel like crap. Just in general.
I started tripping on the way to work today and can't stop. This is the first completely yucky day in a while. I have yucky parts of the day almost every day, but today I can't shake it. There is nothing new or specific bothering me...
Just the, Oh my God, my husband had an affair, Oh my God, for the past three years he's been sneaking around, Oh my God, I don't know this man, Oh my God, he may have an OC, Oh my God, he actually had SEX with someone else, Oh my God, he actually kissed her, he did our stuff with her, he slept with her, he showered with her!
I'm not angry (did that Saturday night). I just feel sad and hurt. It's all consuming today. How do you deal with days like this? I've tried praying, I've tried reading the website, I've tried working (which I'm being paid to do), I've tried reading my affirmations, I've tried reminding myself that he was "sick" and wasn't doing this to hurt me...nothing is helping today. Any advice?
Blessings,
Lori
<small>[ January 28, 2004, 01:12 PM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>