I'd like advice from both WS and BS about little LBs that your WS did or you did as a WS for your BS when you were early on working to try to get the M into recovery.

I'm asking for this advice as the dynamic of my situation has changed. I've mentioned it in other posts but to bring anyone who deosn't know up to speed:

Jan 4th - Disclosed A to BS
Jan 11th - Had confrontation with BS, provoked her into physical violence
Jan 12th - Went to Sherrifs and filed a statement that prompted the sherrifs department to have her charged with Domestic violence.
Jan 13th - BS was arraigned and I made decision to send our boys home to stay with BS and DSD
Jan 15th - Recanted statement that caused BS to be charged with domestic violence
Jan 27th - BS EX has an Exparte hearing held to have temporary custody granted to him. Files for sole custody of DSD and asks for supervised visitation for BS.

Ok, that is a brief listing of whats happened as far as specific events. I've spoken with BS since the arraignment and indicated to her that I was recanting the statement that caused her to be charged as I knew her EX would try to use it to take away my DSD. BS and I really began talking this week after DSD was taken from the home. I've made it clear that I stand beside her in this irregardless of what she plans to do. I let her know she can turn to me for support if she cannot find anyone else.

Now I acknowledge that she may only be talking with me as a result of her maternal instincts kicking in and wanting to bring her daughter home. This is completely natural and understandable. But while we are talking I've been trying to keep my own control issues in check and just be there for her. What I want to know is right is what small things can I do to make LB deposits? I'm keeping in touch when she asks me to call her back, I'm being supportive. I was thinking of getting her a friendship card or something just to say "I love you and I'm here if you want to turn to me." Any suggestions as to other ideas?

-2soon