My husband and I are in recovery mode. However, I need help with my feelings! He has been so good to me, and things are going in a positive direction, but the slightest things trigger his affair, and I get so angry, and upset, and sick to my stomache. I can be happy one second with him, and the next second, I could be glaring off into space (I try not to let him know I am feeling this the whole time because it turns in to a long drawn out conversation that I don't always feel like getting into). OR, I become a total snot to him and he wonders where it came from. How do you deal with these episodes?

rainbow,
I posted this on JazzeyGirl's thread. Come join us there.

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I am really having trouble lately with the feelings of hurt. I too wonder if it will ever diminish.

Somewhere I read that female BS's are more likely to stay and recover the M while male BS's are more likely to divorce. Don't know if it's because women feel more stuck due to economics or if its because we men have that male ego that gets in the way. Maybe it's both.

My further concern is that to date anytime life has gotten stressful around our house, I try to deal with the individual problem but I seem to get completely irrational and the affair comes right back to the focal. I've never been the irrational type so it really has me worried because I seem to lose control of the emotions.

anyway... here we are

cwmac
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RB

This was posted in the "Recovery" section you may find help in it.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=013654

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