I am new here - I have been married since December of 2002. I met my current husband in December of 2000 - I had a boyfriend - I wasn't happy in my current relationship (I am Christian, he was not) I found myself constantly defending my religion to him. I started dating my H while I was still going out with BF. I broke up with BF within a week of meeting my H. So our relationship started out as an Affair. We were together two months when I had an emotional affair. He found out very quickly, I ended contact and we decided to work on the relationship.

We dated for 2 years and got engaged. We got engaged in June. In July of 2002, I had a 3 week Emotional Affair. Never anything sexual, nothing more than kissing. I ended the affair and decided to pursue my marriage.

We were married in December of 02. I told my Husband about my affair in September of 03. He was crushed. He felt like he was tricked into marrying me. Things were rough for a few days, but he decided to stay with me to work things out.

Our reconciliation is going well. I have figured out why I cheated and what I was looking for. We are working on learning how to communicate and express our feelings.

I am looking forward to all of the advice that I can receive from this site.

I am working on my insecurities. I am a very jealous person and I find myself snooping and constantly being suspicious. I am still working to understand where all of my insecurities are coming from.