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<small>[ March 08, 2004, 05:37 AM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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Hmm. If you have been in Plan A for a long time, it is time for Plan B. You need to let him know he must choose between you and OW.
Encourage him to move out of house and give him a Plan B letter. You have gone on too long like this. If you let it drag on and on you may lose your love for him.
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<small>[ March 08, 2004, 05:37 AM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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I had a 2 month (ist month EA)PA over 5 years ago. After 5 years of resentment building and total LBing (on both sides), my H has been having an EA for over 9 months. He says he wants to leave me because we're not friends, but he hasn't left yet. And he isn't willing to have NC with the OW. He says their friends and he doesn't want to give that up. At the same time he admits to having feelings for her. I know I can't handle them having contact in any way shape or form. I've asked him to step down from the board he's on with OW, but he won't. He insists that what I did (PA) is far worse than what he's done. He thinks talking and confiding in an OW is not an A. He's told her so many things about me and our R, it makes me sick. If he continues to deny it as an A, and refuses to have NC, I'm going to plan B. Do men not see how devastating an EA is? Any opinions from the men out here would be great.
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<small>[ March 08, 2004, 05:36 AM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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That to me is the ultimate betrayal-the one person you've shared so much with just tells all to this OW. You can't tell me that she hasn't influenced the way he views our M.
How do you get your spouse to view their EA just as much a betrayal and just as much an A as a PA. To me the emotional connection they have is far more painful than anything physical. What do you think?
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<small>[ March 08, 2004, 05:37 AM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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