Dear hurting&scared:
I understand the pain you are going through right now. You are new to this board, as I see, so I recommend that you immediately begin reading all you can.
From your post, it appears that your wife may have a gambling problem. Has this continued? It would be helpful to know. Can you tell us more about the affair? Is it confessed and over? Is there NC (co contact between them now)?
I would suggest you read all about meeting your wife's needs (there is all kinds of info on this site), as needs not being met is often the main reason an affair occurs in the first place. Another good idea is counselling.
Please tell us more. Have you tried communicating your pain to your wife? What does she think?
There are many experienced people who share here. The more info you give us the better.
God bless.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hurting&scared:
<strong> have been married 3 1/2 years,in the beginning we were so happy,so much in love ,it was just wow! when we first met i was in bancruptcy and i was honest and up front about it.2years into the M my father in-law passed, then my wife started going to the casino and it became a serious financial problem,then she had a affair, but it`s over know. we lost something along the way,PLEASE HELP US FORGIVE AND REPAIR OUR MARRIAGE. where do we begin and what steps to take ? PLEASE HELP. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
