Has anybody used any spying devices or spying software?
Please share your experience.

I have used a telephone recorder, voice activated, records incoming phone number, and records the whole conversation. It was how I finally proved what I already knew to be true for at least a month. You can purchase them online here: http://www.thespystore.com/telephonerecorder-page1.htm

I have also seen some neat Keylogger software, that will record everthing typed on the computer you install it onto, including passwords. You can just to a WWW search for key logger software.

Whatever evidence you may find is hard to sit on, so if you haven't read Surviving an Affair and don't know there is a PROPER WAY to confront, then I suggest you slow down and find out there is a proven formula to go about it.

DO NOT let your temper get the best of you and start hurling lovebusters or disrespectful judgements at a wayward spouse (WS). It will hinder your chances of SURVIVING AN AFFAIR.

Be prepared to hear or read some things that may hurt you deeply, and may become indelible in you mind.

Read more on the MarriageBuilder's site and learn the ropes and terminology, and prepare yourself for what you are thinking of doing... It may make make your situation much more managable.

I hope this helps...

Thank you very much!
But I found out today that my husband is lying to me. I am not sure at this point that I want to repair our marriage and give him another chance. but if I do I want to be sure that it is over!

If you don't want to give him another chance, or don't want to repair your marriage, what difference does it make if he's still having contact???

Sounds to me like you DO want to save the marriage!!! So get busy with the MarriageBuilders program, and start today!!!

Good luck

Maybe you are right? And I do want to work on my marriage? I am so confused!
I posted today on Just found out board. I confronted him today and he wouldn't even talk to me about ending our marriage. He said, you don't want to throw away your life for a little thing like that!His affair is a little thing! Just phisiology, as he put it, and he asked me to give him time to end it. I said, Sure, you have your whole llife for that, I am out of the game!
But we are separate phisically - I am in the States right now in the middle of cancer treatment, he is in a different country. I have very little contol over the situation and I feel like that is a very wrong time to betray your life-long partner! That's why I am getting myself ready to end this marriage and live alone. You see, I have no resources now to fight for him!

I used a small chunk of rubber as a doorstop. That's how I got my name! Our house has very thick plaster walls and thick wooden doors that are very soundproof. My wife would go into her sewing room, close and lock the door and call the OM for love talk. One day, after becoming suspicious, I sawed a chunck off of a doorstop and nailed it on the door frame. That kept the door from closing completely.

Then I snuck to through the hall, quietly pushed the door open a few inches (I had also oiled the hinges) and heard her telling a man who is the husband of a couple we are friendly with, all about how she loved him and looked forward to their next meeting at some fancy resort.

Doorstop!
But what happenend after you heard that! I would have died to hear my husband saying such a thing to anybody other than me!