Hi there,

I read on the PlanA/B board that you spoke to your WH yesterday...is this TRUE?? What happened to your Plan B,I am shocked/confused.

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

octobergirl -
Don't be too shocked. Yes I talked to him. I went over to his house to get address to forward his mail. He was supposed to be at work.

Well you guessed it. He was home and OW was there.So I did a repeat performance. Knocked on door, his roomate let me in. I walked up stairs to his room, and heard he and OW doing it. I knocked on door and told him "larry, this is your wife, I got letter saying you wanted to reconcile, and wanted to talk to me in person. Here I am."

Well we got to talk after OW left. I babbeled to him and found out he is planning to leave with her. He can get an early retirement, a bonus of$25,000. and ride out into the sunset with her.

So today I filed for seperation. I am going to put a little bump in the road for the lovers. I am asking for half of everything.

Now I'm back to plan B.

Believer,

Did you really say that????

If so you are one cruel cool lady. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I just love it. If you are going to blow Plan B, then by golly you did it with class. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I just love it.

I mean I just love it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

God Bless,

JL

Couldn't help myself. Actually I was planning to be in Plan B. But when I drove by to get his address, I just fell off the wagon.

However I did not LB or make any DJ's. Do I get credit for that?

And I feel great about filing for separation.

Well,if you had to fall of the wagon,you did do it is STYLE!

What a bad dream,having a repeat performance of WH and OW but you know,it took a lot of guts to walk up them stairs and knock on that door! Woohoo. I am glad that you got a "heads up" on your WH plans and can protect yourself financially.

Ok,I'm not shocked anymore.I was just worried about ya.Back to business right?

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

That scenario makes me think of you and that Nancy Sinatra song,"these boots are made for walking and that's just what they'll do,one of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Wow, that took some guts and I am sure what you are about to read will cause some flames but here goes..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...... babbling is something the WS does best. If you have to give them credit for that it is that this A disease sure knows how to hurt the family.

However, this is a turning point for you and I see your strength. Will there be down days ahead? Yes. But you will survive.

I don't think you fell off the wagon. There was a big bump in the road and your wagon ran up over it. It was taking up the whole road. It shot you up off your seat for a moment but you eventually came back down. As for the bump? It took a beating. There's a big crack in it. It could not take the weight of the wagon and family. Not that there is a weight problem. No way. All marriages and families come with weighty commitment and responsibilities.

Just know that the next time his 'man' tries to stand up, no matter who he is with, he will see your face 1st. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

IMHO? I doubt his A will last. The OW also has the image of you in her mind. I'd venture to say all her future escapades are now marred ....... See how you can LB in the future without lifting a finger? Ok, now Believer, put that middle finger back down - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


Hugz,
L.

Octobergirl - Thanks for reminding me to stay in Plan B. When your H starts coming around, I will remind you. I promise.

JL - You want to talk about class? While I was outside bedroom waiting for H to put on his clothes, his roommate came upstairs and asked me if I would like something to drink. Hehe. Miss Manners would have approved.

Orchid - I did learn to babble. When talking to H, he said that OW just showed up at his door again. I told him it must be so hard for him. Didn't even mention how she knew he would be off work. Then he said he still wants to reconcile and we should go to counseling. I said we should.

He said he felt like he was making a huge mistake. I told him I feel bad for him and OW having to go through all of this. He said I was "more his speed", since OW has cheated on her H 3 times before. I told him that she really seemed attached to WH and they might deserve each other. Then he told me that he was torn. He is going to be offered an early retirement, and a bonus, and OW wants him to move to Arizona with her. I told him it's so hot in the summer there, would he be happy?

So I went and filed separation papers yesterday. He has had his whole check to spend on their little fantasy since last March. This will tie up his bonus, his retirement, his Harleys, etc. They may have to live in a tent.

You want to talk about class? While I was outside bedroom waiting for H to put on his clothes, his roommate came upstairs and asked me if I would like something to drink. Hehe. Miss Manners would have approved.

Knock knock...

"Dear excuse me...I'm sorry to bother you again...but (INSERT ROOM_MATES NAME HERE) just offerred me something to drink. I'm going to have a (INSERT DRINK OF CHOICE HERE)...and thinking you might be rather parched as well. I took the liberty of asking him to get you a glass of (INSERT WS DRINK OF CHOICE HERE)....
Oh and by the way...the cup of hemlock is for her...." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> But since you like to share...have a little taste as well...."

SALUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ARK que the music...BOOTS START WALKIN...

ark- that is sooo funny. I wish I'd thought of it. The three of us could have had tea together and discussed our problem.