I'm having a real rough time. I told OM last week that once and for all, I wasn't going to talk to him anymore... I didn't want him to contact me... I needed to work on my marriage. I cried afterwards, but I've been feeling pretty good about it since then.
Today - I feel like crud. I'm sick. My H is gone for most of the day doing some training, and I have no one to talk to. One of the reasons that I started talking to OM again last time was because I didn't have any good friends - he had been my best friend. Well, I'd had a few other male friends... but I stopped talking to them, too. So... my only female friends are working today... and I really DON'T want to call OM... but at the same time, I do. I feel incredibly lonely, and I know that my being sick is making me feel weaker and more emotional. I feel like a basket case. *sigh* Maybe I need a nap?

Hi so much hurt,

I'm sorry that you are having a hard time but I applaud you for breaking off contact with OM.I can appreciate how difficult that was for you.

Instead of being at home looking at the phone,if you are,get busy with anything you can.Make a list of things to do and just keep your body moving until each one is done and then watch a long movie but not a romantic one,maybe a thriller or sci fi,etc.Is there any family members that can come and be with you?

It's really important to have a support system and a plan when you do the withdrawal stage so if no one is around to help you and talk to get busy.I don't know if you are sick in the usual sense,like a flu? but whatever you can do to keep your mind occupied will help.The worst thing you can do is nothing.Do take a nap if it will help you feel better and also kill a couple of hours.Try taking a long hot shower or bath too.That has helped me in the past.

Hang in there! We're pulling for ya!

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

O -
thank you for responding <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> It's good to know that there's someone out there.
My H called during a break in his training right after I posted earlier, and it was good to hear his voice. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Made me feel a bit better. I did go and take a nap, though, cause I do have either a real bad cold or the flu. He came home from his training and woke me up, and we're gonna snuggle and watch movies tonight at home. Sounds like just what the dr. ordered to me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Thanks for your other suggestions - I will keep them in mind for future use if needed. I don't have any family around that I could call. A nice hot bath sounds especially nice, though! I usually do try to keep myself busy... but with feeling so cruddy... I'm just not up to my usual to-do list today.
thanks again for being there and the encouragement!

SMH