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What Is Love?
#1110909 02/08/04 12:26 PM
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We have read a lot on this board about how love is not a feeling, but love is a verb. In other words, we can choose to "love" someone by our actions and our behavior.

The church I attend periodically will print in the bulletin something - in plain English - that relates to Biblical teachings. Well, imagine my reaction last week when I read this:

According to the Bible, love is not primarily a feeling at all. The Bible teaches that love is a commitment. Therefore, it is not dependent on good feelings, but on a consistent and courageous decision to extend oneself for the well-being on another. That commitment then produces good feelings, not the other way around.

I wanted to share this - all, BS and WS alike. Remember, we can decide to love or we can wait for the feeling to hit us. Chances are, if the feeling just hits us, it's merely infatuation that can - and often does - lead to the addiction of the A, and not true, deep, meaningful love. That kind of love is an action word.
Re: What Is Love?
#1110910 02/08/04 12:46 PM
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Well there is agape ... then there is caring love ... then there is in-love ... I don't consider eros as love at all, it is a lust.

Agape & caring love are the one that we as christian shooting for as descibe in 1 Cor 13:4-7, to be Christ like. It is an action.

Now In-Love feeling or romantic love is a bit diff. IMVHO. We have no control other than let it happen to us !. The one in control actualy is our mate !. They are responsible to fillin out LB$ and ours to let it. Now as BS we can't expect at all that WS will fillin our LB$. We are the one who have to fillin their LB$ and hope that WS will let you do it to them.

Of course there is a point to call it quit. Those are personal decision and that is the time to go to plan B or go to Dv ...

Just my 2¢ -rh-

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