pretty good, ac2ally, though I would rather not be doing this.

Probably the worst thing about the place I'm staying is my alergies to the olive trees in the neighborhood. I'm eating claritin like candy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Talking 2 my W 2day made me realize the value of getting out of each other's hair, though. We were butting our heads against each other's walls for far 2long.

-ol' 2long

Had fun yesterday. It was a blast screamin' down the quarter. I didn't even break anything. So it was a good day. I got two practice runs in and got knocked out in the first round. Bummer. Just as well the car isn't purpose built for racing. The one in the garage will be next year.

My galpal enjoyed the day also.Yesterday she told me she is in love w/me.Just a likeable kind of guy I guess. yak at ya later gotta get a cup of mud...

Bret:

You mean a "mug o' mud" or a "crock o' crud", doncha? Or doncha?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> 2long <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Brett-

I knew you wouldn't last too long on the open market. Hope you will not fall head over heels in love and abandon us.

My heels passed my ears a few days ago.

Got an email from STBX today, she filed final on friday. Thought I'd lose it when I found that out. My heart thumped a few beats. That is all. Then I felt like a burden of weighty proportions was lifted from me. Strange. Very strange emotions.

Well that is about all for now. Going to hit the hay, got an IC appt. in the a.m.........

Gee, it only took you 444 posts to get to this point. I feel bad for your ex-wife. I think she will soon realize she made a huge mistake. Oh well, her loss.

Hope you have a great week.

YO! Looks like you all are doing just fine without ol' Spider Slayer around. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Just stopped by because I heard someone called me out on Recovery, and I came snooping over here to see what was up.

Brett, I am happy for you. I am glad you have some warmth and happiness in your life right now. Like the others and your counselor, I caution you to temper your happiness with patience and time. Friendship is the way to begin any longterm R.

Believer, you rock. I hope everything turns out well for you.

2long, I think you are doing what needs to be done. Being apart and not speaking unless necessary is what helped bring H and I back together. We were hurting each other with our pain. We needed time and space to develop new perspectives - on the same situation.

H and I are doing awesome. We are going to make it. He sent NC email, and of course she replied - dumba$$. I told H I didn't think she "got it," and he said he didn't care what she thought. We can only control us, and he is not contacting her again.

I was impressed. Each day he comes back to me more fully than ever. When we fight, he has not once said he regretted coming back or that he should leave again. He says that I can do whatever I need to do, but he is committed to this marriage, and he is not leaving. He wants to be with me for the rest of his life, if I will let him.

Such a sweet talker.

Anyway, I don't come here anymore. My sitch is my own, and it is hard to explain things to people. And they all mean well. I have such an active support network here of friends and family, and they know me in a different way.

Anyway, thanks to all of you. You all got me through some really scary times. Times I thought I literally would die. And I didn't!

I wish everyone the best, and don't be surprised to hear from me again when you least expect it!

Lots of love and support and HUGS!!!

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Hey girl - there you are. I have looked for you on recovery, but assumed since we haven't heard from you that things are going well.

So I guess the old fly by the instrument panel really works! Good luck to you and H and check in once in awhile. Everyone on this site needs success stories.

Glad to hear all is well with SS and her H. Success stories are heartwarming. Recovery with energy spent in the proper direction is a good thing.

No regret, no remorse for the journey that I've begun. Only a lifting of a great burden is what I've felt all day. I approach every day with a smile now. Unlike any other day I've ever spent. Aware of the "fog" and cautious about doing the wrong thing. Unrequited(sp?) love.That was it in a strange way. To all a good night...

Brett:

It's impossible 2 really know you and your new flame's sitches, or emotional vulnerabilities and stuff... ...and you know what? In the end, it's none of our business.

I think you're doing okay. I just wanted 2 note that I've known of at least 3 people from here who have gotten involved with someone else around the time the DV went through. In 2 of the cases, the FBS got engaged 2 be M'd to their new companion, and simultaneously the FWS really started 2 regret the DV. In one of those cases, the FBS was having 2nd thoughts about the wisdom of getting married so soon (I never heard from him again, so I don't know what happened). In the 2nd case, the FBS and his new partner were so careful for so long, that the last I heard they were doing "all the right things" and probably did get M'd recently. But I haven't heard from him so I don't really know. His FWW was still living with the OM, preggers, and hating herself (and the FBS) for her life getting so messed up. In the third case, the WW left her H and 2 kids and moved in with the OM several states away. The FBS dated a 2ple of times before the DV, but cooled his heels after that. He's probably M'd 2 one gal that he started seeing before the DV was final, but I haven't heard from him in several months. He had a good head on his shoulders, though, so I'm hopeful that he's doing well. His FWW was a typical fog-bound WS last I heard about her. I hope she's okay, but I have no idea whether she's regretting her decisions.

Just be careful and caring, okay?

-ol' 2long

On 23 April you wrote;
The gal I met is willing to wait for me to get through everything that I have to work on before we can consider anything serious.

Then on 26 April you wrote;

My galpal enjoyed the day also.Yesterday she told me she is in love w/me.

In 3 days it went from "not serious" to "I'm in love with you"? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
And even before you knew your divorce was final? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Yup, pretty much how it went.

ain't love wonderful?

When I was in high school, I knew a guy who's parents decided, on their first date, that they wanted 2 get married. They didn't get M'd on the first date, but did about a week later. When I knew my friend, his parents had been married for about 20 years.

It can happen, but it's risky.

-2long

Brett - Just enjoy yourself for a while and wallow in the fog. Take your time. You have been through a lot. Don't worry about the future, just be good to yourself and E for awhile.

Will do, thanks believer. I seem to have the desire back to run again. That is a good thing. I have a gift, I will return to the road with it again. Top ten in Memphis, see if I can be there here in Boise. seeya..

The divorce decree showed up in my mailbox today. Strange emotions. I feel like jumping for joy and I feel like crying. What's that all about? The voyage continues..

Normal feelings Brett. You loved your wife and have lost your marriage. Anyone would be sad. On the other hand, you have a whole new life waiting for you, and the tools to make it better than before.

Any new developments? You're getting pretty quite up there in Idaho.

Nothing new. Just contemplating selling the house or refinancing. The only benefit for selling is a work shop. But then there is a bigger mortgage that will go along with that. If I stay with my 2 car garage I'll have more money for the race car but limited space. Decisions, decisions.

All is well with E, we're doing fine. Dating once a week and yakking on the phone in the evenings. I don't have an IC session til next week.

I'm going to drive to Washington to see an old air force/car buddy next weekend. I make that trip every year, first or second weekend in May. They are expecting in september so they won't make their usual trip down here. He has some car parts for me, for free, yahoo!

seeya