Well not quite limbo.

Life overall is good. Friends and family are supportive and people have noticed changes with in me. (much like the rest of us here, I'm sure)


Well it's now just over 2 years since the affair began from what I can tell and 1 year since my WW confessed and left to be with her new love. (she went N/C on me last June, only a 4 emails since)

Yes OM was a friend of mine and his wife was my WW best friend. Sick stuff for sure.


Well since I'm invisable to my WW and I could file next month I'm feeling pulled in two directions. One to move on and find someone who wants to be with me and One that still misses my WW.

How are others dealing with this stuck in the mud feeling?


It's almost ironic how in 11 months since dday I've gone from never wanting to be without my WW to thinking that a new life without her may be my reality but may actualy be better than her comming back and us working things out. WOW what a roller coaster.

goodguy,

I know a bit how you are feeling. My WW has not been gone as long as yours and she still maintains a friendly contact with me. At times I feel like I wish to make every effort make it easy and desirable to change her mind and return to our marriage. At other times I want to give up and let her go, feeling that she and the other man deserve each other and their fate together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

For the sake of my marriage, my peace of mind and my relationship with God, I have decided to continue to do all I can to save our marriage. How long I will continue on this path I do not know.