My FWH's OW actually asked me to sing at her wedding. Her request stunned me so much that I was at a loss for words. The real reason for her request is that she didn't want my husband to have to move across the country because I was trying to save our marriage. She was trying her hardest to make me think that nothing was going on between them and that she was marrying someone else. Well, it's been four years and she's still not married! She did manage to hang onto my H for a year after we moved.

I was riding in my car today and remembered the conversation. I just started laughing about how ridiculous this request was. Thought some on you might need a good laugh, too. I don't even sing that well. What would she have done if I had said "Yes"?

Nope, I don't think I can top that.

But a comment that left me rather speechless when I made the stupid mistake of stopping at OW's place in December when I saw H's truck there, and invited myself in to "chat" with them...

As she sat with my H, her arm around his shoulder, telling me how my kids (like she knows them?) don't want their parents to be unhappy and that it's better to end an unhappy marriage, we got to my point (I'm a Christian) of marriage vows being forever and the sanctity of marriage.

Her comment back (almost as good as yours), "Well (huff), I'm a Christian, too!" I was unable to respond.

(Not for me to judge, but...she has three kids by three different men, two not in her custody, she hangs out in sleazy dance clubs with a "very close" female friend on Wednesdays, is still married but separated and is carrying on a P/A with a man who at the time was still living with his wife. She must have missed a sunday school lesson or two.)

Pre discovery day... I was questioning the # of calls to her...

...she called me on my cell to tell me "I love my husband very much" and "she hoped I would still attend her daughter's 1st birthday party." She didn't want things to be 'awkward' between our families. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

The 'real' d-day was a few weeks later... yeah... we did attend the birthday party...

...some days her audacity still burns...

Cali

Somehow I just knew that some of you would also have outlandish stories. Lordslady, the OW also told me that she was a Christian. I guess they have their own version of the Bible.

Cali, I'm not very good with words but the word "audacity" describes these situations perfectly. Thanks.

My FWH's OW actually asked me to sing at her wedding

I never get asked to sing at anyones wedding ...

for some reason I mostly get to help park cars...

(Ok I DO get to wear the pretty flourescent orange vest, so that does count...cause the singers never get wear them...)....

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Ark who really is a girl...a girlie girl even..

I confronted the girlfriend by phone the night my husband told me about her. She had the nerve to tell me, "I was causing problems." My response was "Excuse me, you're slleping with my husband and I'm causing problems????" I thought that took alot of nerve.

Originally posted by songbird7:
My FWH's OW actually asked me to sing at her wedding.

This is my *wicked Pepper* responding....

You should have said:

"No, I won't be available to sing at your wedding. But you can count on me to be there singing at your funeral."

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Pep

Pep, how I wish I had found this board back then. Y'all could have given me some great comebacks. At the time, I was going on gut feelings alone because of a lot of things that just didn't add up. My H didn't admit anything until they had supposedly ended it all.

Next20years, nerve is right! She also told me that I was just too negative and my husband got so depressed everytime I showed up at his work.

Ark, I would definitely be better at parking cars than singing.

Here's a comment from OW that still confuses me.

When my H issued NC to her on d-day, she continued to try to call him the following week. After the third attempt (he hung up on her all three times and told me about the calls), I called her. Asked her why she continued to call? Was she that stupid that she didn't understand what NC meant! Duh!

OW said she was just trying to call him to tell him how sorry she was that I found out about the A.

OW went onto to say "It's different this time." I guess she meant the second A. "H loves you very much and said that you are his whole life."

??

If that's true, why did H have EA/PA with her?

If that's true, they why did OW have EA/PA with him?

Can you imagine that conversation? H saying that he loves me and I'm his whole life, but let's have phone/email sex daily and physical sex whenever either of us travels! OW says okay?

As a woman, I just can't imagine even going into an A (or a normal relationship) knowing that you are just second best (if even that). I guess that since OW is a rather plain unattractive woman that any attention would do.

Oh well.

sss

Just remembered another one...OW advised MC for H and I. OW said that she and her H had been to MC a few times after his and her prior A's, and it works! (Apparently not in her case!) She asked what stage I was in. Did I cry yet...because I sounded so angry on the phone?

Unbelievable!

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After the third attempt (he hung up on her all three times and told me about the calls), I called her. Asked her why she continued to call? Was she that stupid that she didn't understand what NC meant!
If you want no contact, why did you contact her?
Your "message" to her is this. Call three times and you will get a response.

Hi Songbird...
Oh, I would have sung at her wedding... I'd have gotten SLOSHED, and sung like Rosanne Bar/Arnold singing the National Anthem...

Oh, you bet I would have sung... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . They'd still be talking about it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ! - Dru

I can't top it... but the OW in my scenario left one burning in my brain.

I called her on D-day, in front of H, and calmly told her that H had told me about the A. I told her that she was not only involved w/ H, but w/ an entire family. I got very little response (H name is on caller id and I believe she thought it was him. Hearing my voice and me introducing myself must have knocked her on her butt). She said "Oh, uh-huh, hm" alot, but not much else.

I didn't show any temper, disrespect, anything. I basically said that now we all were aware of the situation, that my H was telling me that they were over and that I hoped she would respect that. I then gave the phone to him, so that she knew he was aware that I called

When he next saw her, she confronted him with "Who the hell does that C think she is?". Funny and infuriating!! I thought I was his wife, but I can see where his behavior had her confused!!

Well discovery the OM came to our house to borrow our camper top for his family vacation.

Two things stood out upon discovery. He talked about our beagle puppies we had just gotten our kids. Said he would have given us two for the kids if one of his females would have had a litter.

The other was him thanking me for helping him load the camper up on his Tahoe.

Had I known at the time here is the evil Stun's response:

OM: He I would gladly give you two pups as soon as one of my females is pregnant.

Stun: Geesh thanks you planning on doing the honors yourself?

OM: Thanks for helping me load that camper.

STun: No problem hold on just a sec while I finish working on that leaky brake line.

Now post discovery I confronted him at his office. I walked right in and asked him about an safety deposit box he wanted my wife to get for him. (He was serving a felony conviction at that time and I wonder what it was he was wanting to hide and from whom).

I asked him what the F he wanted with a safety deposit box and his reply was:

"He never had one and always wanted one"

Geesh what a dumb [censored] reply. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

speaking of stunned's exom who said...
He never had one and always wanted one"

ooohhh things to get stunned exom just incase he has always wanted one..

1. root canal
2. the effects of botulism
3. a lobotomy
4. shock therapy
5. an incontinent male cat..
6. a date with bubba who is also serving a felony....
7. Judge judy at all future "mis-understandings"...

hmmmmm

I can think of lots of things...
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ARK

<small>[ February 17, 2004, 01:51 PM: Message edited by: ark^^ ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ooohhh things to get stunned exom just incase he has always wanted one..</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Yeah, you never had my foot up your [censored], either... bend over and say 'cheese' you piece of sh..."

We could have alot of fun with this...

The OW, in my case former supposed "best friend," told me that: she always had my best interest at heart, and that she always encouraged my WH to come back to me.

????????????????????????????????????????????????

Was that before, after, or during the phone calls, emails, and sex?????

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. . . . . . . .

Amy

Ark -

I forgot to mention that I am one of the guilty people who misinterpreted you as a man. I realized after I posted the other day that I referred to you as "him," and I had no reason.

I'm glad to know you are a girlie-girl. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Amy

Might I suggest you send him a copy of Offspring's new CD? Lovely song at the end of it called "when you go to prison". Would be lovely sung completely under the influence of very good tequila at OW wedding too...

I might be able to equal but for sure not top the singing request...

My xh's OW1, the infamous Monkeyho, talked my xh (then h) to going to a "Song of Solomon" marriage conference at a church less than two miles from my home. She called up my xh and said "I feel like I am going to go to hell for wht I've done and have bought US tickets so you can WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE." My idiot xh went with her and althought "they tried to resist it" he ended up sleeping with her although he insisted it was really after he spilled something on his shirt and she had to launder it for him and then one thing led to another...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ooohhh things to get stunned exom just incase he has always wanted one.. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well the sick bah-stard wanted to know who was bigger....

I thought of telling him my wife said he was only half the man I was then sending him a full monty photo....might have it digitally altered for added shock value. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

The add PS: I know why she said she never "felt" a thing for you or was that with you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

[censored] okay now you have me p'oed again....geesh can't I just be hateful on my own without being egged on! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

I'm just sitting here shaking my head while reading all these stories. At least we all kept our sense of humor.

Peachy, I think your story definitely tops mine. Going to a marriage seminar with the OW is certainly a novel approach. Did your H actually tell you that with a straight face?

Drucilla, I loved your idea. I can sing a really bad "I Love you Truly."