Why did he have to give this date to come home. It is driving me crazy. I'm trying to keep busy. Yesterday he was here when I came home from shopping with my daughter. He seemed out of it. Actually, he said to me where are we going the end of March??? We had made a date to get away for a long weekend when he came home, I can't believe he asked that question. We are going up to where his relatives are. I hope I don't have to eat them flight tickets if he doesn't come home. He is getting wierd. Can this be a normal thing he's going through because the time is coming near where he has to tell her he is coming home to us????????????? My mom says she doesn't think he will come home. She says he is coming around only to help out here since he left. Maybe guilt. I hope she is wrong. He has told our daughter that he is coming home the end of the month. Would he be lying to her? Is he finding it hard to leave her even though he says he loves me????? He is having alot of thoughts now. He is getting stomach problems now, also he thinks he has blood in his stool. That might be from his prostrate operation the Dr. said yesterday, he goes today for a ck. of his level. He has alot on his mind, the cancer, the affair, returning to us. This is driving all of us nuts......What a life.......How does anyone get through this sane?????? And last week after I went away for the day with him on the boat, we came home and I had to take my dog to the vet, she died an hr. later of cardiac arrest......... So much crap is happening to me I feel I am going to go nuts one day and not want to go on. I miss that empty bed, totally now. Not even a dog to pet in my time of need. I have to make it these 13 more days....... Any good words of advise from someone will help..........Thanks

Dear lefty,

When it rains, it pours doesn't it? You know what? Despite the odds against you, you still have your wits about you and you are not the one with the problems. You listed your H's problems. Not even 1 of yours.

Let him have his problems. All of it. You go and work on making yourself feel better. I know you will never be completely selfish but the WS have a way of making the BS feel guilty.

Like water off a duck's back. Let those insults fly off you.

Hugz,
L.

HI Lefty.
It is hard to understand his time frame.
Why the end of February?
What will make THAT DATE any easier to leave the OW for good?

Do you know this OW?
You have stated he is impotent due to the prostate cancer but if they are having a sexual affair and they probably are, she is more than likely giving him oral sex and hand jobs and he is giving her orgasmns as well!
You have to realize, this is more than likely going on between them.

SOOOO when he comes home, and if he comes home, you will need to be a better lover yet than she is/was! Will she be willing to let him go or will she be always trying to get him back?

If he lets you down this time, and doesn't come home, it will be time to Plan B him and quit being walked on!

He has hurt you A LOT, more than any woman should ever be hurt by their beloved husband!

You are doing good, not to love bust, however, you may have to give him an ulitmatum if he lets you down at the end of this 'magical month, end the affair'; time period HE has set.
Sincerely, Julie
P.S. Don't delay, get another puppy or doggy to love, from the animal shelter, just as soon as you can! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ February 17, 2004, 06:03 AM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>

lefty---why eat the tickets---if he doesnt come home use them yourself!! take someone else and do something for you.

im very sorry for the loss of your dog. ive been through that. painfull enough without all his crap too. orchid is right--let him have his problems, they are his, not yours. you do have to start caring for you though. please dont let yourself get lost in all this.