My Husband had an A in 2003. I found out about it in October. I suspected it but never put two and two togfether until he just started coming home in the early hours of the morning.
I have even caught him on the phone with someone else. He claims that it is just clients,but I knew better. He started sleeping in the den on the couch. I was pregnant at the time. He did not even come home the night our daughter was born.
We have had some problems with blending our family since our 2000 wedding. We have had deaths, births, and moving stepchild off to his mother. All which have caused serious stress on our relationship.
He claims that my nagging and hostile behavior has put him out there. I do admit that I have in the past and sometimes now when angry have explosive outbursts. I even went as far as to not let him do anything with the kids ( we have two toddlers). I didn't let him keep them, take them anywhere, dress them, feed them, nothing.
Okay, I was wrong for that I know it now. I immediately after finding out about the affair threw him out of the house - changed locks and everything. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I did not care where he went, but was angry because he trashed our vows. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> He claims that he never slept with anyone just went out with them, but I have proof otherwise.
I then went and filed for divorce. He kept trying to come home, but how was I to trust him. He claimed that he was wrong to come at late hours and by the way he was not sleeping with me at the time. He still would not admit to his affair.
A month went by and he was served with divorce papers - He was in shock. He then wanted to work it out. But at this time I think I made the mistake of calling him all the time, and crying to him (how could he do this to our family). All he could say is that he did not do anything he kept saying that I would never accept his son (stepson).
I then by reading this site learned of all my errors in the relationship. I learned that I had committed all of the lovebusters. I was not contributing to the lovebank and would not allow him to contribute.
i have done a lot of growing during these four months now and he has improved a lot. I do not want my marriage to be over so I withdrew the petition for divorce. We are working on it however, he'll never admit to the affair, and now that's okay I just need to know where do we go from here? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Can someone help me please? How do I get my Husband to come back home? I have no clue of his physical address - he say he staying with friends. my stepson confirmed that. He and my stepson stay at the house with me and the kids on his visitation weekends, but my husband does not spend the night any other time. He comes over everynight, but goes to where he's staying later that night.
I try not to beg, but I think we can work on it better if he's at home!!
What do I do now? Help PLEASE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
<small>[ February 17, 2004, 12:42 PM: Message edited by: JT2 ]</small>
