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I've posted a few times here before and have been reading several of the other posts. I was unfaithful to my H about 2 years ago and just recently came clean about it all to him. I really hate myself for the hurt that I have caused him. He told me that he loves me and wanted to work things out. That was about a month ago. We had been talking this all over, and we purchased some books to read. I'm currently reading "Torn Asunder" and I've gotten some good perspectives out of it. I love my H and want us to work things out. Our relationship has always been rocky but I still do love him and want to be with him. I had hope that we could work through this. Now I'm not so sure. He's really unsure of what to do now or if he even wants to continue the relationship. I don't blame him for feeling that way. I hurt for him, and I hate myself for making such a mess out of things.
I feel so lost and alone right now...I can see no future, no hope, no feelings...At times I think it would be better to tell him I want to end it so that he can move on with his life and have a wife that he deserves. Then I feel selfish for wanting to stay with him and work it out.
I honestly don't know what to do. I think I'm going to seek out an IC because if I don't talk to someone I feel like I'm going to go insane.
Has anyone here actually worked things out after this? Is there really hope? Or am I just clinging to something that I shouldn't? I really would like to hear from somebody.
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Glad to hear that you came clean with the A....I am a BS who couldn't save her M, and I only wish my H wanted to.....Hang in there, you have to remember he is going through a range of emotions, and will be back and forth a lot over the next while. You need to be the constant that reminds him that you do love him. Get into MC, find out why the A happened and what you both can change in your M for this to not happen again and restore what you lost.
IF you want this M, don't think you are being selfish for trying, it would be selfish to just throw in the towel because it is easier.....Hang in there!!!
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