</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I will leave this board now...I cant ask for your help and you cant help me anymore...
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is the usual reaction when we hear things that we don't want to hear. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I act this way too at times when I feel "critizied".

But Sally, the things you are reading from some of us is not being written to "hurt you"

You are getting "feedback" from people that don't even know you. We are reacting to what you are telling us and we are telling you "honest" opinions.

Isn't this something to be seen as "positive"??
Gosh, which friends of yours in "real" life would tell their honest opinion for what you are doing???? Who would you talk to about the mistakes you have made and are making????

You probably don't tell anyone what you did and about your affair, therefore you are "hiding" your true self and your friends don't have a clue "who" you really are.

You wrote that you're leaving this board. Well this is your choice.
Facing reality is difficult but it's a chance and if you'd reread some of the replys and take them to heart, you'd possibly grow within yourself.

take care
bb

Sally,

I would hate to see you leave. You could use the support, but it really is up to you. Both you and your H have made many poor choices in the past. You know what they are and have mentions them. Things that weakened your M even before your A.

Take this advice/warning. Don't trust the OM or his motives. Some people will say or do anything to manipulate and control someone. Re-establish NC with the OM, and make it a lifetime commitment. Also talk to your H about MC, simpley because you both need the help in talking with each other.

Things are not a bleak as you may think.

God Bless

Sally, I am so happy to see you back (even if you feel you have to leave again). I am sorry to hear that you broke NC, but figured it might have happened, since you disappeared from the board.

The nice thing about life is that today is always the beginning of the rest of your life, and you can choose from this day forward to do the right thing. Make your M a priority, and ditch the OM.

Good luck.

Liza