WH can think of their OW before their own felsh and blood. I know it is because they are in fog but I still cannot understand why they would chose someone who is not flesh and blood. My WH has asked me to reconsider him taking the children to his and OW's house when he has visitation this is to include them to stay overnight. Apparently it is causing problems and he will not have a relationship to salvage if it carrys on (what a shame) He wants to make it work between them and this is causing problems. He says OW says she does not mind but he knows it stresses her out and wants to prevent this (funny how WH suddenely can be thoughtful of someone else) My D said if it splits them up then Doom on him (out of Ice Age I think) I have said that I will not back down on this matter and things have to stay they way they are 6 times a month is not too much for him to see the children (in my mind it is not enough). I left an ultimatum with his he either lives with this fact on my terms or that he has a month off not seeing the children and spends all his time and builds on his relationship with OW (knowing full well this will not happen) He is now discussing it with OW and will get back to me soon, he says he can't see him not seeing the children. If it does backfire and he does agree to spend time away then how long would this last and what effect would it have on the children, I tell you these WH do not think at all do they.

This was all coming from the same WH who only last week was saying he didn't know what he wanted and didn't know if he wanted to be with the OW. Maybe it is time to go to plan B?

FI

I am having the same problem understanding my WH fogese. Mine has all but abandoned his own S who is only 3. He has left me with all the responsiblity of the house and kids and animals and so on and I just found out he is off buying snowmobile accessories for himself. Isn't that something? Off having recreational fun with his OW (he probably had to get a seat extension for her) and I am here doing all this extra work plus the stress of everything else. There is no telling what they are thinking.

I know it only fog but it makes me so angry that they can't see that the children need to come first. I mean WH is living with OW and it is only once a week and every other weekend for a day that he has to be without OW, jeeze it makes me mad. I feel like phoning OW and saying a few things but know this is not right and will go against me.

Plan B NOW!!!! The time is ripe. He is vascilating. He is asking for more from YOU. Now is the time to give him nothing. Let OW have him 24/7.

Send the letter today. Shut down communications. You opportunity is here.

In His arms.

Thanks mortarman I know I need to go to Plan B as WH is making me so mad that my feelings will change towards him and for my own sanity I need to stay away. Do you trust my Plan B letter or do you need to see it before I send it.

I think it is always better to have others look it over. You are very close to the situation, and may not see some things in what you write.

There are many on here that can help with that and make it good. So, post it today and get it to him this weekend. Then shutdown commo and concentrate on the rest of your life. NC!!!

I am willing to bet this will blow your husband clear out of the water. He is already in pain. You will hit him harderthan he has ever been hurt.

Let's see it.

In His arms.