This actually feels strange to do sending this letter I feel like I have left it too long and this will make no difference at all and WH is quite happy where he is. I don't think he has the guts to do anything about his situation. But I have followed the MB guidelines, prayed a lot and taken on board everyones comments especially mortarman so I shall go to the next stage and see, watch this space as they say. I do understand that this plan is for me and I feel that I am getting stronger each day and even if WH does not return then I shall be fine.
As with everyone I have taken a piece from someone elses letter and made up my own.
Dear WH
I want you to know and I believe that you do, that I love you with all my heart. Almost from the moment we played footsie under the table all those years ago, you have been a part of me, even when we were apart. When we had our children and got married this sealed my love and devotion for you. I meant that forever and always when I married you, I married you for life and still want to stay married to you for life.
I realise now many of the mistakes I have made that created an unhappy life for you. I never intentially wanted to hurt you or make you unhappy and I am truly sorry that I did. I regret what I have said and done that has helped to bring us to this point and I am taking steps to correct those things in my life.
The affair you are having with OW has broken my heart and is too painful for me to bear anymore. It is destroying the love and respect that I have for you and this is something I desperately do not want to happen. As long as you are having an affair with OW I cannot speak with you. When the affair ends, I would love to discuss reconciliation and the rebuilding of our marriage with you.
Until that time I ask that you do not contact me for anything. All issues regarding the children and finances can go via email or your mum.
I want us to be able to rebuild our marriage to create a new life in which everything we do makes us both happy, so that there will never again be a reason for us to seperate. I want you to be my best friend and I want to be your best friend, someone who is always there for you when you need me. I loved you when we married and still love you right up until this day. But until you are willing to end your relationship with Ria and take the necessary steps to rebuild our marriage, I cannot be a part of your life.
Love Sam
Have I missed anything out, is it too long or does it make sense etc.
Thanks everyone, I am planning on giving this to my WH on Sunday so all comments would be gratefully recieved.
