Rachel & TNT - <P>For us betrayed, it a complete mystery. Even though Dr. Harley says that we are all "wired" for infidelity, I have a very difficult time believing that I could ever do such a thing. I married later in life (34) because I enjoyed dating many women. I was never sure that I could devote myself to just 1 woman for the rest of my life. Enter W - my life and attitude do a complete 180...I just met the woman of my dreams!! since we've been married, I have NEVER had any desire (other than normal fantasy) to be with anyone else. Even when we argued. I had plenty of opportunity since I travel a lot for my work, but I have always remained faithful.<P>Was life so bad with us betrayed that the only recourse was to fall into the arms of another? I had absolutely no clue that W was<BR>as unhappy as she apparently was. This is what made it so hard for me - the suddeness of it all. Looking back I can certainly see where my lovebusting and minimum provision of her emotional needs set the stage, but we were both guilty of that. In no way, shape or form was I even close to considering an affair to get my needs met. Maybe, eventually it could have happened to me, but I don't think so.<P>My W, like your H Rachel also decided on divorce. I was served only 8 weeks after she moved out. What a shock to the system.<P>Do affairs really end? I ask because the waiting is pure torture. I am in a race with the clock...does the divorce go final before the affair ends? I keep reading about all the success stories. I tear up when I read how happy rejoined couples can be. I pray that all of us can someday join thosed blessed ranks.<P>
