Suggestions please! The OW moved away in August but affair continued long distance until Jan. when H ended affair. OW called me and listed things they had been doing and told me directly that they were through and she had found the 'self-respect'to stay out. However, she continually calls H on his cell phone. I can see his phone when I want and know that he does not answer her calls. He can talk from other phones I know, but assuming he is telling the truth, how do we get her to stop? I feel like if I respond, I give her power. I am thinking maybe a three-way conversation? It doesn't seen to bother H that I get upset about the calls . He thinks as long as it shows he isn't answering I shouldn't get mad. I feel like it is too much of a temptation at this time. She is letting him know she is still there and he knows all he has to do is answer and everything will be back to the way it was. How much of the phone calls from her are his responsibility to stop? New phone numbers won't help. His business runs through the cell phone and it would be too easy to get access to the new number.

Did your WH send OW the NC letter?

motherjane22

So, then change the numbers. Make her take the onus of chasing down the new ones. A gesture of recommittment from WH, and a test, and message to the OW who doesn't want to go away. He should also change his e-mail address if that's been a problem.

Does she have SO? Have they been contacted? If not, you should do so.

Can the phone co and/or cell phone provider block incoming numbers.

Otherwise, check into legal action, and see what it would take to get a restraining order, and if that applies to phone contact. I don't know the answer to that one....

I got a well-deserved harassment order from OW. It is a civil proceeding, not a criminal proceeding.

motherjane22

just wanted to tell you what happened in our situation.

My husband ended the affair immediately when I had found out.
This was over 3 years ago. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

My husband gave me his cell phone and got himself a new one. We too have a business and therefore all customers had to phone me first before I gave them his new number.

Just before Xmas XOW tried to contact my husband and of course I answered!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So of course she isn't getting his "new" cell phone number and our business continues to florish like before. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Oh and if I'm not quite "safe" about someone that is asking for my husband, I ask for their number and he phones them back with his new "unlisted and inindentified number!" cell phone.

It works and there are no "negetives" for our business.
take care
bb