OK now my W just IMed me and said that She is missing me and feeling lonely that I will move on without her? WOW EAs are so messed up. Funny how life works. she says she wants to be with me, and can start feeling that she loves me again, starting to see things a bit more clearly....still very confused and have all these emotions...but says she really wants to be with me. I don't know what is going on in her mind, We almost fell into trap. We almost had "sex" and we said NO. NO SEX. We do not wish to have sex, we want to make love, but we feel that can only happen when we are connected again. i don't think i gave her enough time. She has until 3/11/04 and thats it. Right now, i'm just planning for 2 different roads one with her one without her. But I am still confused on WTF she is going through. this manipulation is such an evil thing to do to someone whom you love isn't it? wow. i don't know what to believe and feel from my W. She is really driving herself nuts. I set the deadline for myself. I will choose then if i want to be with her or if i will move on without her. She also stated that she doesn't have feelings for the OM. And today she will tell him completely no contact of any kind. She also agreed to write him a letter...and that I will send copies to him and his wife and keep a copy for myself.

Whats your spin on all this? sorry its so long.