is it too good to be true?
DH was in an A that lasted over two years. They only saw each other once a month when they met for business in a state that neither live in. When I found out,(5 weeks ago) he immediatly wrote a NC letter, showed me the responce and started MC (within 10 days) He got a new e-mail account, a new cell phone number and swears he has not heard form her. He is not doing business at that location any more so he has no reason to see her there. She is alo in a long term releationship besides this A.
She (OW) has a history of alcholism (currently sober) and is medicated for depression issues. But when he sent the NC letter she wrote back a very nice "stay with your wife and family I am sorry for the hurt we have caused them"
I keep having these feelings like the other shoe still has to drop.
Can it end that cleanly? DH seems committed to doing the work at rebuilding the marriage but I am always edgy wondering if it is real. The MC says take it one day at a time. I am on the rollercoaster and wondering about others experiences, most of the stuff I have read here makes this sound too good to be true!

anotherone

I get what you mean and I just wanted to tell you that it was very much the same in our situation.

D-D and my husband ended the affair immediately.
He swares there never was any contact since.

I too was waiting a long time for the other shoe to drop but it never happened.

It's been over 3 years since d-d for us and things are doing great.

OW actually tried to contact my husband just before Xmas but since my husband gave me his old cell phone, she had to deal with my voice.
This must of shocked OW because she hung up immediately.

My husband was furious and he caller her back and yelled into her voicemail to "Get out of his and our life and to leave him alone!!!!" (he yelled this full blast <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

So I guess the "other" shoe did move but only to give OW a "Swift kick in the $SS!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care
bb

Well wife had just three phone calls one unavoidable due to business after discovery. The other two came over the first two days after discovery. I only had a recording of a her leaving a voice mail for the OM. Nothing blow it out incriminating like I would have later on once I had phone cell detail and travel expense records.

Just two calls to see if I could be convinced they were just friends.

She did call him several months later in my presence. She was drunk and going to cuss him out but backed down.