Well, my H "ran errands" last night for over 3 hrs.! He called me three times telling me where he was etc. Every time he called I was like, "Okay, see you in a while." When he came home he asked me if I was mad at him for taking so long. I said, "You did take a long time, but I'm not upset." He said, "I called you didn't I?" I said, "Yeah, thanks for doing that."

We went running together and when we finished, I told him, "You know, I was thinking we need to let S know this weekend of your plans to leave. That way he'll have the whole spring break to absorb it and get used to the idea." He said, "Okay."

I think I'm starting to detach. When I got up, I did my usual and checked the phone, and sure enough, he had called her lastnight after I had gone to bed.

It didn't even upset me too much. I'm becoming numb. No tears.

<small>[ March 17, 2004, 03:05 PM: Message edited by: nid ]</small>

Nid please read my H's post BS's be strong..he posts under tellthetruth. Maybe it will help. If you have questions for him I'm sure he'll try and answer. I think your H is one of those that there is hope for!

The more I hear, the more it seems that part of their fantasy and excitement gets a thrill out of keeping the extent of their involvement from you. She is playing along, thus the calls when he was 'out on his errands'.

For whatever reason, they want to not cause waves in either of your divorces...at this point especially hers. There may not be any reality in their fears. I doubt if it has anything to do with not wanting to hurt you. It's pretty sick, really.

Then we also see that he is still very confused and is probably lying to her as much as to you as far as his SF with you goes.

I understand the feelings of detachment on your part.

You are doing better with your responses to him.

You almost have to pity his confusion.

I still see lots of hope here.

I also thought of your situation when I read tellthetruth's posts. My H has never posted..he has only read the occasional post that I've asked him to read.

forevertogether, Your H said that you are strong. I really admire you. I would like to know how to be strong. What did you do? What did you say to OW. I think that I am in the point to talk to OW now. But what do I say?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Then we also see that he is still very confused and is probably lying to her as much as to you as far as his SF with you goes.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">4give, I know I shouldn't give OW the time of day, but a part of me wants to ask her, "Do you know that while you've been carrying on with my H, he and I have continued to have an incredible sex life? even right up to this morning?

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Weather forecast. Chilly, then HOT!

<small>[ March 12, 2004, 10:44 AM: Message edited by: worthatry ]</small>

On Communicating With OP

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Good points, WAT!

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<small>[ March 12, 2004, 08:56 PM: Message edited by: worthatry ]</small>

I think I've missed something.

WAT, if nid would like my e-mail addy feel free to give it to her that way I don't have to post it here.

See my mail message to you.

HOw do I see a mail message?

<small>[ March 12, 2004, 09:01 PM: Message edited by: nid ]</small>

You can't see private mail messages. It was my message to mother.

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