Ok after respecting my WW request back in June 2003 to give her space etc. (to live her life without my interferance was what she ment)

Anyway after not seeing WW for 6/7 months or talking at all beyond you have mail to pick up we finally met.

So for the first time the Ice Queen seems to be melting.

WW asked about friends we both shared that she has ignored and during those conversations she began to tear up. I touched on the fun times I continue to have with them.

WW also suggested that we have dinner in a couple of weeks to catch up. (on what who knows)I said that would be fine and that it was up to her as I wasn't going to interfere with her life. That regardless she could talk to me at anytime. And again more emotional tears.

She told me I looked good and seemed some what uneasy with the idea that I was moving out of our home to another house.

So everything went well and I was perfect with the marriage builders principals except one. During a good bye hug I told my WW that I missed her and loved her. To my surprise she gave me an extended and heart felt hug. In fact I released first.

Now I'm not going to read much into this as who knows I could get a call for dinner or the divorce call in the next few weeks. But it was interesting.

any thoughts?

007

Was she set to file divorce or are you just trying some type of seperation?

My WW left on DDAY to continue her affair with the OM. almost one year ago.

She has never talked about why she had the affair or our problems as she see's them. I got one I'm sorry on dday and the usual our marriage was over long ago. Of course when pressed my WW can't actually say what was missing or wrong with our marriage.

Divorce talk has never come up. it's as though she left to simple continue her affair.

I am very happy for you goodguy!

Gives me hope that someday my WH would come back too.

Btw...did she say she has ended the affiar or is your wife still having it?

gg:

I'm glad 2 hear this news. It sounds like she may be coming around. Just be sure it gets done right, if that's what she wants 2 do. Don't just have her move home without a clear understanding of what recovery will entail.

I wish for you all the best,
-ol' 2long

GoodGuy,
It great that things look a little better for you. I would advise that you be careful though. I gave in to my WW 2 times. She came home for 2 days the first time and 10 days the 2nd time. She left both times to continue her affair. However, she is in the process of leaving OM. She has secured her own apartment and has already gotten a new unlisted phone number. She told my Ds that she will change her cell # also. She is moving out this Thursday. She told my Ds that she hasn't told OM anything yet and will not until she is gone. She doesn't want to have any more to do with him after that. I guess it just goes to show you that if you wait it out, affairs do usually end. Maybe in your W's case this it true also. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Just be cautious and don't be over anxious. Things will work out one way or the other. Take care.......

To give some clearity my WW isn't comming home. There have been no discussions about that, our past, OM etc. everything was as light as I could make it while showing WW who I'am now and what she is leaving. ie - Friends, family etc.

I'm not sure if the affair is ongoing, though I'm 90% sure it still is. Really doesn't matter to me at this point. I'm slowly moving on with my life.

WW needs to make the effort at this point if she wants our marriage and the world that comes with it.

Then you're doing the right things, gg.

Ball's in her court.

-ol' 2long