OK, do the typical stats for affairs becoming successful marriages apply to lovers who reunite after the BS dies?

Wondering because it appears someone I know had an affair on his wife and upon her discovery of the A, broke it off. Then about 6 years later the BS passes away and now he's back with the OW. He had kept contact with the OW through work situations during most of the 6 years - don't know if the A continued, or not, but there was definitely contact.

They've been dating discreetly about a year now, but he's made no attempt to marry her. Your thoughts?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jamup:
<strong> OK, do the typical stats for affairs becoming successful marriages apply to lovers who reunite after the BS dies?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, jam, don't know what the "typical" stats are for this scenario, but it sure fits what my FIL is doing.

His A was "an open secret" - as his W knew about it. It was on-going for at least 20 yrs <YUCK>, and as soon as BW died, he began "dating" ow full out in public.

Now, they live together. I doubt they will marry after all this time, but they do seem to continue to want to be together, although I've heard he's extremely miserable ("be careful what you wish for" syndrome?). It's very difficult for me to tolerate this, as I feel it was always and continues to be disrespectful to deceased BW, who always knew about OW, and had even talked on phone to her..........

Not that BW was without complicity in this sitch. She often told him she would "never Div him......." no matter what, and she didn't care if he was w/ow, "AS LONG AS HE CONTINUED TO SUPPORT HER FINANCIALLY." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Ah well. It takes all kinds, I guess.

Hmmmm, prolly why WH thought it was OK to do this, too, eh?

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The stats you are referring to are for people who leave a marriage for the op.

In this situation I would say it won't work out because the guy is gonna be hurting and the "ow just wants to have fu-un".

I'm thinking she may get burned out because right now she appears to be trying to fit into the mold that he wants as "wife" material. She doesn't seem real comfortable in her own skin!

What's that saying about a leopard's spots??

I don't know.

Has Prince Charles married what's-her-name (Camilla?) yet?

Maybe he did and I missed it.

LOL

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